Why Women Don't Like Porn

Ok boys, we know. Watching porn is probably part of your regular routine. But, most women rarely watch it, if at all.

Have you ever wondered why your lady doesn't spend hours scouring the internet looking for dirty movies like you do? Have you asked her to watch with you and have found it turns you on but leaves her cold? Here are some of the reasons why she doesn't like porn like you do....

Porn is Visual
Most porn is geared to appeal to the senses of the men in the world. A man's sexuality is cued by visual stimulation, while a woman's is more emotional. This is why the very little porn that is made for women is more story-line based, as opposed to arbitrary sex scenes. For women, it is more important that the sex be part of the bigger picture. In porn, foreplay is a foreign language and the actors jump straight into the (often extreme) sex.

Porn Actors are Ugly
Let's be honest: the only important part of the male anatomy in porn is the penis. Which is why there are very few attractive men in porn. In fact some male actors are down right ugly (Ron Jeremy, anyone?) And when it comes to female actors not many women out there appreciate the fake boobs, the collagen filled lips, and the stick thin figures.

Porn is Contrived
Women are less tolerant of the situations shown in porn. More often than not the people having sex on the screen don't even seem to like each other. The old "in and out" may be good enough for you, but it won't be for her. She will likely respond better to characters that actually seem to like each other. She won't be expecting Oscar worthy performances from these actors, but a little sexual tension can go a long way.

Porn is Degrading
There are somethings you have to watch in porn because your girlfriend would never agree to do them in real life, right? And it is probably those things she finds degrading and disgusting. Most women do not enjoy facials, rough anal, ATM, or gagging oral, so you watch porn to "get" those things.

Porn is Slutty
Women are not as encouraged as men are to be sexual. For fear of being called nasty names women are hesitant to show too much sex drive or to admit to getting pleasure from things like pornography. If she is reluctant to watch porn because she thinks its slutty, ease her into it with something more geared toward couples, or women.

She's Just Not That Into It
There are many things about porn that do not play to the woman's senses, they don't mesh with a woman's sexuality. Which is why many women don't watch porn. If you know what she likes and are willing to put in some effort you may just find something you can enjoy and share on screen. Just a suggestion: lean more towards erotica, it will play more to our sexuality.

....Why women prefer erotica....

You may be wondering what the difference is. Porn is a graphic sexual image, that conjures up an animalistic reaction. You'll like it or you won't. Erotica is also a graphic sexual image, but it has more to it than just the raw sex - be it artistic, be it passion, or it may parlay into a sexual fantasy you imagined for yourself. It is less in your face.

As I mentioned earlier we prefer story lines, foreplay and a bit of romance, which we don't get from traditional porn. Erotica gives that to us. And if we happen to like our erotica in book form you can imagine the scenarios anyway you like in your head. You can imagine yourself being there. You can see the stories in your mind, imagine them playing out, taking shape and unfolding. In porn, its all laid out for you. There is no imagination. It is already in your face.

Porn is generally made for men. It serves its purpose just fine for you. But erotica goes deeper than that. It appeals more to women. It is for women, often written by women.

There is a story, there is often a bit of romance, and there is definitely sexual tension. All these things cue directly to a woman's sexuality.

xoxo
L