The erogenous zones, that is.
Curiosity is part of the male genetic makeup. So for that reason many of you remain curious about what turns women on. What spot can you touch that will absolutely drive her crazy? Well, boys, today is your lucky day! Are you ready to take the journey through a woman's body? You are? Oh good! Let's get started, shall we?
1) Inner thighs. The inner thighs are highly sensitive to touch. Just like the backs of the knees the inner thigh has many nerve endings. So, lick, touch, lightly stroke. Do not, however, bite as this will cause her pain which in turn will cause you pain. So, play nicely. And the inner thigh is not a part of the body you can accidently bump into. You have to intentionally go for it. And her knowing you're making a point of paying attention to that part of the body amps up the turn on factor.
2) Derriere. Yes, many women like it when you play with her backside. A lot of women like squeezing and spanking. Again, be gentle. Fondle and caress. Just remember, this isn't a pigsking you're handling here.
3) Nape of the neck. A weak spot for many women (I would be one of them). Just breathing on this part of her body will give her goosebumps. So imagine her reaction if you lick or kiss the area. If she's like me she'll see stars. Use your hands, pull her hair aside and start planting kisses. I guarantee you this little gem will get her engines running.
4) Ears. Many women enjoy having their ears licked and sucked. Blowing in her ear, however, isn't necessarily what she enjoys. Also, try whispering in her ear. Though do try to pick something other than "Hey, can you wish my gym shorts for me tonight?" - that will have the exact opposite reaction you're going for. Instead try to be a little erotic and even romantic.
5) Feet. While not my first choice of places to be touched many women do enjoy having their feet rubbed and massaged, and some even enjoy having their feet licked and sucked. Many women find a foot massage to be relaxing, and a relaxed lady is more receptive to you and your touches.
6) Wrists. Yes, we have wrists - an often ignored part of our bodies. Next time you're heading into foreplay with your lady try caressing and kissing her wrists and just check out how turned on she'll likely become. )
7) Breasts. Big shock here, right. The breasts and nipples are very sexually sensitive. Gentle fondling, squeezing, caressing, licking and sucking can be very arousing. However, go easy on our nipples. We don't want to feel like we're being clamped on to like a vise.
8) Vagina/Clitoris. Another big shocker here. The clitoris can be stimulated with the tongue or the finger, or, if you're the multitasking type, both at the same time. Many women will give their lovers to show them the amount of pressure they enjoy. If she's not the type to guide you make sure you pay attention to her. If she gets squirmmy make sure its because she's enjoying it and not because you're giving her an "annoying" feeling.
9) Lips. This is the number one erogoneous zone for many women. If you know how to manipulate her lips correctly through licking, sucking, biting and kissing it is very possible that kiss will lead to a lot more than just a kiss.
Remember, all women are different and we each have our own likes and dislikes. Get to know her body and experiment. There is so much more to a woman's body than just her sexual organs.
Until next time, let your exploration begin!
xoxo
-L
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
The Bucket List
Whether we realize it or not we've all got a bucket list of things we want to accomplish in our day-to-day lives. Whether it be stuff we want to do today, tomorrow, next month or next year we've all got things we want to do in our lives. I'm willing to put money on saying the majority of those lists don't include things to accomplish sexually, in (or out of) the bedroom. And why not? Why not create a Sexy Bucket List? Personally, I think its a great idea!
Be creative, give it some thought, push some limits. Don't be afraid to be honest with what you want to try, and don't be afraid to put something on the list that you never thought you'd try. And at the same time don't be afraid to put some fun, silly things on the list too.
So, here is your homework assignment: create a list. Yes, really. No, I'm not kidding. Make a list. Whether it be 5 things or 50 things make that list, then put it into action. I guarantee you it'll open your eyes to new, fun and exciting things! You can thank me later!
Oh, one last thing: we want to know what is on your lists! Is it to try light bondage? Sex in a public place? Join the mile high club? We want to know! Leave us a comment, or if you prefer some anonymity send us an email, and we'll post for you! You can find both email addresses in our profiles on the right side of the page.
HAVE FUN!
xoxo
-L
Be creative, give it some thought, push some limits. Don't be afraid to be honest with what you want to try, and don't be afraid to put something on the list that you never thought you'd try. And at the same time don't be afraid to put some fun, silly things on the list too.
So, here is your homework assignment: create a list. Yes, really. No, I'm not kidding. Make a list. Whether it be 5 things or 50 things make that list, then put it into action. I guarantee you it'll open your eyes to new, fun and exciting things! You can thank me later!
Oh, one last thing: we want to know what is on your lists! Is it to try light bondage? Sex in a public place? Join the mile high club? We want to know! Leave us a comment, or if you prefer some anonymity send us an email, and we'll post for you! You can find both email addresses in our profiles on the right side of the page.
HAVE FUN!
xoxo
-L
Monday, April 18, 2011
Curl Her Toes
Thats the thing about sex. Even when its great, there is always room for improvement - if not for you then for her. She may not say she's feeling like something is missing, however she is likely thinking it.
So, boys, here are a few ideas to help you help her:
Go slow. When women say they want to take things slower, take what you think is slower and multiply it by 10. Women often complain that men move too quickly through the kissing, boob playing, hands in crotch phases. Take more time at each place. Trust me, we want to be teased. We know you want to get to the feature presentation as quickly as possible. On occasion slow things down...waaaaaaay down. We promise it'll be worth your while. This isn't to say we don't want to be grabbed in the hall, thrown up against a wall and done right there. We just don't want it all the time.
Change it up. Don't assume that because something worked last time, or with your last girlfriend, that it will work this time. Variety is the spice of sex. Don't be afraid to try things. Ask her how it feels: faster or slower; softer or harder. No really, ask her. If you ask she will probably tell you.
Porn is for entertainment purposes. So please stop taking tips from porn films (and yes we know you watch it). For women, the seductive period leading up to being in the buff is important, and you just don't get that in porn: woman walks into room, brief kiss, clothes off, now they're doing it (and she's making weird noises and strange pouty faces). Oh, and something else to forget porn ever taught you: forget that tongue flicky thing guys seem to do. We want anything involving your tongue to be long and slow. (you are taking notes here, right? If not, I'll wait until you go get a pen........oh good, you're back.....)
Appreciate her looks. Always verbally appreciate her body at any given opportunity. Women are vain; we want to hear from you how beautiful you think we are.
Foreplay. Its great and most of the time required. But sometimes it isn't needed or wanted. There are times we're primed and ready to go without much kissing and touching from you. Not sure how to tell if more foreplay is needed? Pay attention to her cues. If she's paying more attention to your happy parts than the rest of your body then odds are she's ready to go.
Also, try bringing her to orgasm during foreplay. Intercourse after an orgasm can be incredibly intense as everything is already fired up and highly sensitized. (no really, try this one. Put the time and effort into it, believe me we'll thank you for it later)
Don't assume she'll ask for what she wants. Many woman won't ask for more oral sex, however really want it. If she hasn't asked then go for it. Kiss your way from her neck, down her chest, her thighs then to her girly bits. If she likes it she'll be happy to let you continue. In the unlikely event she doesn't she'll let you know. She may also only want you down there for a short time then its on to something else.
Mirrors. Have sex infront of a (carefully placed) mirror or two. This is much more fun than video taping your session (which unflattering anyway). We know you guys are visual creatures, but you're not the only ones. So, grab that full length mirror and see what happens. I'd bet many women would find watching themselves with their man to be quite the turn on.
Let her drive. Put her in the driver's seat. Generally female-dominant positions make you last longer (bonus for you!) and her climax more quickly. They also usually make it much easier for you to use your hands on parts of her body you can't touch when you're in control. So touch her. Believe me, she'll want you to touch her.
Rev her up in different ways. Foreplay doesn't just happen in bed. It could be the suggestion of a session later in the day and the anticipation that build leading up to it. Be physical without being sexual, like stroking her hair. And women say they can never get enough kissing. So pucker up boys, it'll help fuel the fire. Take her out to dinner, look at her longingly, make her think you're going to take her home and pounce on her as soon as the door clicks shut behind you. Then make her wait. Let the anticipation build.
And really boys how much of a stroke to the ego is to know that you, in all your manly glory, have turned her on, revved her up, and sent her into orbit like never before? I dare you to try it, and tell me you don't feel like you're the king of the world aftewards.
xoxo
-L
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Striptease 101
Let me be the first to admit the very thought of a striptease made me want to run for the hills. You want me to do what? Oh, really? I'll get back to you as soon as I stop laughing. However, I bit the bullet and went for it. I can't say it was the most graceful or glamorous tease ever given, but once I got into it it was fun, as was the bumping uglies that took place afterwards!
Any woman can give a great striptease, even if you're body conscious or naturally shy. Surprise him with a striptease. He's sure to remember it. Need a few pointers to get started? Ok, here you go....
What to wear: Show some skin and choose clothing that accentuates your best features. Sexy lingerie, baby dolls, and cute little dresses are all great options. Whatever you decide to wear make sure it's easily removed.
Panties: make sure your undies show off your fabulous tushie and frame your cheeks. We all have underwear that no one else should see, and seducing your man is not the time for the comfy panties. Try on booty shorts, thongs, and g-strings to see what you feel best in and makes your ass look scrumptious.
Shoes: the choice whether or not to wear shoes is a personal one. If you decide to wear them stilettos are a great option as the high heels will make your legs look long, lean and fabulous. Worried about breaking an ankle in stilettos? No worries. Dancing barefoot is sexy too.
Stockings: knee high or thigh high, with or without garters. They'll be a sexy addition to whatever outfit you choose to wear.
Props: Use a rose or a feather to entice him. While you're dancing use the rose or feather to tickle him from his cheek down his chest, down his arm to his fingertips without letting him touch you back. Sit on a chair, spread your feet just wide enough to give him a bit of a peek, sit up tall and dust yourself with the feather while he watches.
Whipped cream, chocolate sauce and any other dessert type thing on your body is a great idea if you want him to be more than a spectator.
Set the stage: find some music that makes you want to move your body, use low indirect lighting - a combo of soft lamp light and candles works well, if your bedroom is lacking ambiance throw some extra richly colored pillows and blankets to your bed.
Get comfortable with dancing: if you can, take time to practice. You don't necessarily have to choreograph a routine, though if you want to go for it, but get used to moving your body to music, find the rhythm and go with it. And get rid of the "I'm not hot enough" thoughts that creep into your head. Because, really, you are TOTALLY hot, so work your hotness!
The most important thing is to be yourself. Have fun. Pick and choose from these ideas and go for it. The fun is knowing you're driving him wild, not necessarily the moves themselves.
When you feel sexy you look sexy. If there was ever a time to ooze sex, this is it! Most importantly have fun! This may well be a high point in your sexual relationship; you may just find you want to do it again and again....... You never know until you try it. Get up there, strut your stuff! What are you waiting for?
xoxo
L
Note from Av: Ladies, trust us on this one. Put your insecurities on the shelf - know that any of your features that you're picking on, he's getting an eyeful of - and loving. No woman is hotter to your man than the one, right in front of him, taking initiative, and showing him how much she wants to have sex with him. Get comfortable with yourself, know that he LOVES it, and let loose!
Monday, April 11, 2011
Kink it up!
Hit a sexual slump? Yeah, it happens to the best of 'em. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, per se. It just means its time to break out of your routine. We women want more than a "wham-bam-thankyou-ma'am" approach to sex. We want excitement, passion, heat and.......kink? Oooooh yes, kink!
Many girls are unsure how to approach the subject, you know, since nice girls aren't supposed to like raw, dirty sex. You'd likely be surprised at how many "good girls" like kinky sex. Thinking it's time to change it up a bit? Suggest it to her. Put the idea out there. Grab the bull by the horns (see, this is that taking the lead thing coming into action again) and suggest it to her. She may be too shy to bring it up herself.
Note from Av: Boys, the proper time to bring these things up is NOT when she's all gross from the gym, covered in baby vomit, or otherwise feeling overwhelmed and under-appreciated. Try whispering something hot and sexy in her ear, in the moment...that's hot.
Here are a few things she may be fantasizing about but is too shy to tell you:
Masturbation - its a healthy part of life anyway (c'mon we've all done it once or twice, and those who say they haven't are likely lying (and yes I am aware there are a few, rare exceptions to that rule)) so why not share it with your partner? Put your guard down and let her watch as you get acquainted with yourself. Or you watch as she works magic on herself. That whole voyeurism thing brings a new element of mystique to the bedroom. Bonus: her watching you may give her a few ideas on how to better please you herself, and vice versa.
For a twist, try placing your hand over hers, when she's giving you some manual action - and show her what kind of touch and speed you like.
S&M - is she a control freak? If she is she may be into some S&M. Be submissive, let her have her way with you. Or flip the switch if she's the control freak and have her be the sub: tie her up, handcuffs....you get the idea. Just don't go gangbusters your first time out of the gate. Ease her into it. Perhaps save the whips for next time. **agree on a code word before you get started. Your code word is her way of saying she's had enough and wishes to stop. Don't push your boundaries, boys.
A good way to get into this - to test her feelings on this - is to gently hold her wrists above her head, the next time you're going at it. While I find it hard to not touch the man I'm with, it's also pretty hot to let him do what he wants with me (and vice versa!) OR - pull out a silk scarf sometime and ask if she's interested in finding out how much fun you could have with it. (wink!)
Toys - Toys can be a fun and exciting way to put some spark back into your bedroom routine. Start with massage oils, maybe some O-enhancing lube, use a vibe on her. Once your both feeling a little more adventurous you can explore the world of dildos and so much more! Be warned: this may just start a sexual frenzy!
If you think she's not masturbating, boys...you're probably wrong. Women do it about half as much as men do...with whatever works. Toys are fabulous in the bedroom, and I bet a bunch of you men would be surprised at how many of your women have one!
Threesome - if your lady is very open-minded and has a big sense of adventure adding someone to the bedroom might be on her fantasy list. Thats right, a threesome isn't something only guys fantasize about, many women do too. Worried about sharing your lady with another man, or even just having another man in the bed with you? Don't worry, many women fantasize about being with another woman (and I'm willing to bet seeing her with another woman may just appear somewhere on your list of fantasies?). However, before you start compiling a list of possible candidates be warned: a threesome can, in some cases, be not so great for a relationship. So, because we don't want that (we want you to have hot, crazy sex) be sure the two of you discuss it thoroughly beforehand, and set clear boundaries.
Not a freaking chance. Ever. Don't even bring it up. But that's just me...I don't play well with others. ;)
If you've experienced a recent loss of heat in the bedroom kink may just be the way to go. She may not want to engage in the kinkiest of the kinky but a light dose of K may just be enough bring the spark back. So, pick a few that interest you and put the suggestion out there the next time missionary just isn't cutting it.
xoxo
-Layla & Av
Many girls are unsure how to approach the subject, you know, since nice girls aren't supposed to like raw, dirty sex. You'd likely be surprised at how many "good girls" like kinky sex. Thinking it's time to change it up a bit? Suggest it to her. Put the idea out there. Grab the bull by the horns (see, this is that taking the lead thing coming into action again) and suggest it to her. She may be too shy to bring it up herself.
Note from Av: Boys, the proper time to bring these things up is NOT when she's all gross from the gym, covered in baby vomit, or otherwise feeling overwhelmed and under-appreciated. Try whispering something hot and sexy in her ear, in the moment...that's hot.
Here are a few things she may be fantasizing about but is too shy to tell you:
Masturbation - its a healthy part of life anyway (c'mon we've all done it once or twice, and those who say they haven't are likely lying (and yes I am aware there are a few, rare exceptions to that rule)) so why not share it with your partner? Put your guard down and let her watch as you get acquainted with yourself. Or you watch as she works magic on herself. That whole voyeurism thing brings a new element of mystique to the bedroom. Bonus: her watching you may give her a few ideas on how to better please you herself, and vice versa.
For a twist, try placing your hand over hers, when she's giving you some manual action - and show her what kind of touch and speed you like.
S&M - is she a control freak? If she is she may be into some S&M. Be submissive, let her have her way with you. Or flip the switch if she's the control freak and have her be the sub: tie her up, handcuffs....you get the idea. Just don't go gangbusters your first time out of the gate. Ease her into it. Perhaps save the whips for next time. **agree on a code word before you get started. Your code word is her way of saying she's had enough and wishes to stop. Don't push your boundaries, boys.
A good way to get into this - to test her feelings on this - is to gently hold her wrists above her head, the next time you're going at it. While I find it hard to not touch the man I'm with, it's also pretty hot to let him do what he wants with me (and vice versa!) OR - pull out a silk scarf sometime and ask if she's interested in finding out how much fun you could have with it. (wink!)
Toys - Toys can be a fun and exciting way to put some spark back into your bedroom routine. Start with massage oils, maybe some O-enhancing lube, use a vibe on her. Once your both feeling a little more adventurous you can explore the world of dildos and so much more! Be warned: this may just start a sexual frenzy!
If you think she's not masturbating, boys...you're probably wrong. Women do it about half as much as men do...with whatever works. Toys are fabulous in the bedroom, and I bet a bunch of you men would be surprised at how many of your women have one!
Threesome - if your lady is very open-minded and has a big sense of adventure adding someone to the bedroom might be on her fantasy list. Thats right, a threesome isn't something only guys fantasize about, many women do too. Worried about sharing your lady with another man, or even just having another man in the bed with you? Don't worry, many women fantasize about being with another woman (and I'm willing to bet seeing her with another woman may just appear somewhere on your list of fantasies?). However, before you start compiling a list of possible candidates be warned: a threesome can, in some cases, be not so great for a relationship. So, because we don't want that (we want you to have hot, crazy sex) be sure the two of you discuss it thoroughly beforehand, and set clear boundaries.
Not a freaking chance. Ever. Don't even bring it up. But that's just me...I don't play well with others. ;)
If you've experienced a recent loss of heat in the bedroom kink may just be the way to go. She may not want to engage in the kinkiest of the kinky but a light dose of K may just be enough bring the spark back. So, pick a few that interest you and put the suggestion out there the next time missionary just isn't cutting it.
xoxo
-Layla & Av
Sunday, April 10, 2011
What Women Want
....in bed.
I'm sure (or hope?) its common knowledge that, generally, women want more sensual, take-your-time foreplay. We also rather enjoy it when you don't just roll over and fall asleep immediately afterwards. But what about once you've got our motors running? What do we want then? Read on.....
Use Your Tongue Ok, that doesn't necessarily mean we want you to go "down town" (although sometimes that is nice). We like compliments. But be creative. The standard "you're so beautiful" won't always cut it. Be specific. Aim for something along the lines of "your fabulous ass drives me crazy!", and telling us "that feels good" works wonders - the benefit of that little gem is twofold: if you tell us whatever we're doing feels good we're more likely to keep going (bonus for you!) and knowing whatever we're doing is doing it for you turns us on more. You see where this is going?
Make Love to us Head to Toe Sex for us, most times, starts in the mind. We don't go from zero to LIFT OFF as quickly as you can, and do. Light some candles. Play some soft music. Rose petals on the bed. No, not saying this needs to be done every time, but break it out every so often. Let us know you're paying attention to us. Make us feel special and wanted. Once you touch our body make sure your touches and caresses are a full-body affair: don't just focus on boobs or our girly bits. Focus a bit on less obvious areas: gentle kisses on the neck (a sweet spot for many women), trace circles on her lower back. In fact, go for these areas first before the more obvious hot spots.
Man Up Take the lead. There is nothing more masculine than you taking the lead, showing us you have direction and you're going for it. Don't ask questions in bed. Ever. Drop the inhibitions. And stop being gentle. We want to be taken and to be ravished. Dirty talk that would make us blush outside the bedroom will wildly turn us on now. We want to feel you are wild for us because of us. Don't get us wrong, sometimes we want a more gentle session, but sometimes we just like to be taken. Right here, right now. Go.
Just Do It Honestly the size of your organ doesn't matter to us as much as it matters to you. Its more of an issue in your mind - men tend to fret over the size of their stuff. Really, we don't care as much about it as you do. We care more about stiffness and staying power. So, stop worrying that its not big enough and just get to it and get it done!
Chime in - got a suggestion of your own? Share it! Add your own ideas, elaborate, yay or nay - either way, we want to hear from you!
xoxo
-Layla
I'm sure (or hope?) its common knowledge that, generally, women want more sensual, take-your-time foreplay. We also rather enjoy it when you don't just roll over and fall asleep immediately afterwards. But what about once you've got our motors running? What do we want then? Read on.....
Use Your Tongue Ok, that doesn't necessarily mean we want you to go "down town" (although sometimes that is nice). We like compliments. But be creative. The standard "you're so beautiful" won't always cut it. Be specific. Aim for something along the lines of "your fabulous ass drives me crazy!", and telling us "that feels good" works wonders - the benefit of that little gem is twofold: if you tell us whatever we're doing feels good we're more likely to keep going (bonus for you!) and knowing whatever we're doing is doing it for you turns us on more. You see where this is going?
Make Love to us Head to Toe Sex for us, most times, starts in the mind. We don't go from zero to LIFT OFF as quickly as you can, and do. Light some candles. Play some soft music. Rose petals on the bed. No, not saying this needs to be done every time, but break it out every so often. Let us know you're paying attention to us. Make us feel special and wanted. Once you touch our body make sure your touches and caresses are a full-body affair: don't just focus on boobs or our girly bits. Focus a bit on less obvious areas: gentle kisses on the neck (a sweet spot for many women), trace circles on her lower back. In fact, go for these areas first before the more obvious hot spots.
Man Up Take the lead. There is nothing more masculine than you taking the lead, showing us you have direction and you're going for it. Don't ask questions in bed. Ever. Drop the inhibitions. And stop being gentle. We want to be taken and to be ravished. Dirty talk that would make us blush outside the bedroom will wildly turn us on now. We want to feel you are wild for us because of us. Don't get us wrong, sometimes we want a more gentle session, but sometimes we just like to be taken. Right here, right now. Go.
Just Do It Honestly the size of your organ doesn't matter to us as much as it matters to you. Its more of an issue in your mind - men tend to fret over the size of their stuff. Really, we don't care as much about it as you do. We care more about stiffness and staying power. So, stop worrying that its not big enough and just get to it and get it done!
Chime in - got a suggestion of your own? Share it! Add your own ideas, elaborate, yay or nay - either way, we want to hear from you!
xoxo
-Layla
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