Anal is one of those things: she either loves it or hates it. There is very little middle ground. Most women have tried it at least once and a fair lot of them will never dare again. The reason: pain. If there is no pain then there is pleasure. Hence, love or hate .
The Allure of Anal Sex
For men and women anal sex is a different, tighter sensation - it's naughty and provides variety to normal sex.
Why She Loves It
Women who love it love it because it can feel incredible. Its different in sensation, and doesn't feel like anything she's likely felt before: its deep inside, it isn't her clitoris and it isn't her vagina - but strangely it feels both in a weird mixed up way. If you stimulate her clitoris once you're inside her anal orgasms are possible.
She also loves it because its naughty. People love to be naughty sometimes, and anal sex is one of those things you do completely privately and no one will ever know your naughty side besides you and your partner.
Why She Hates It
Because it can hurt. Anal sex is not easy to master when you haven't had much practice. For men it seems simple: in-and-out. But its not that simple. Women will sometimes endure the pain for one of two reasons: a) she wants to like it or b) she wants you to like it.
If you're not very careful, if you do not warm her up properly, and if you don't go slowly enough you will likely hurt her, which will greatly reduce your chances of trying it again.
She may also be worried about creating a mess. Let's be honest, given the locale we are speaking of here it is obviously a hot spot for creating a mess. Women spend time making sure they look and smell great and to have something ruin it can be mildly devastating.
Lube is essential.
The anal canal does not produce its own lubricant so you must provide your own.
Tease Her
Turn her on. It is very important that she be very well turned on before you go anywhere near her back door. When she is turned on her body is much more open to you. She needs to be aching for you to touch her. Get her to the point she is begging you for it - and do it without pentrating her with anything. Anticipation is one of the greatest sexual tools you've got, use it to your advantage.
What Not To Do. Ever.
Do not ever enter her without her express permission. Do not treat her like a scoring device. She is not an object for you to blow into or onto. If she is willing to share her derriere with you treat it and her with respect.
What To Do. Always.
Always use lube. If requested to wear a condom do so without whining. Do as she asks - anal sex is a delicate situation and she needs to be able to trust you.
Anal sex is many things for many people. Do it right and you'll get to do it again. Do it wrong and you may be doomed forever. Ok, maybe not forever, but for as long as it takes for her to forget how bad it was the first time around.
xoxo
L
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