The Female O: 101

First let me start with: HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!
Whether you're attached or are a roaming single, I hope you all felt loved today!

Now, class is in session.

Diving into a cool lake on a scorching day.
Biting into a gooey pizza when you're starving.
Getting your wallet back with all its contents after losing it.

These are all good things. Know what else we can add to that list?

Orgasms.

Yup, they're that good.

And its a shame they don't happen more often.
Surveys show only 25% of women climax every single time. The rest of us are either hit or miss depending on the night, or we don't climax at all during intercourse (you can lump me in to the never column, sadly). Compare that to the 90% of men that get their rocks off 100% of the time. It seems the female O is a fleeting phenomenon. Seriously, Mother Nature, what the hell?

When you are in the throes of passion you're not likely going to notice if your dog, cat or your parakeet starts rearranging the furniture, never mind you taking notice of the changes in your body as you near orgasm. So its no wonder we don't know whats going on when an orgasm hits. Thankfully there are sexperts out there who have done some research for us.

As you become turned on the blood flow in the pelvic region is increased, breathing speeds up, heart rate increases, nipples become erect and the lower part of the vagina narrows to grip the penis while the upper part expands to give it some place to go: if all goes well (ie: the phone doesn't ring and your partner knows what he is doing) an incredible amount of muscle and nerve tension builds up in the genitals, buttocks, pelvis and thighs - until your body involuntarily releases it all at once in a series of intensely pleasurable waves: aka: your orgasm.

The big bang is the moment when the uterus and vagina contract simultaneously in 0.8second intervals. A small orgasm may consist of 3-5 contractions, while a biggun 10-15.

And those sessions when you just can't seem to quite get there? It is usually because the woman hasn't gotten enough continuous clitoral stimulation. Since the clitoris is packed with nerve endings, this one little spot can be the difference between a hit or a miss. It is also helpful if you're relaxed when your sack session starts. If you're tense and stressed you're not likely to hit the home run. Have a hot, steamy shower, a glass of wine then get to it.

Don't let your O fall by the wayside. He's not the only one who should be getting their jollies, us ladies deserve them too!

xoxo
L