We all dream about being that woman - at least for a night. That naughty little vixen who grabs her guy mid cocktail party for a quickie in the coat closet, who will plan a vacation around the best skinny dipping spots and who has tried all of the positions on the "guaranteed to drive him wild" list and loved them all. Even if you were that sex kitten once upon a time these days your libido may be as lifeless as a dorm room houseplant.
Rest assured you are not alone. Recent surveys show that one in three women have reported a low sexual desire - that's nearly 40million American women! While men can pop a little blue pill, us ladies can't quick-fix our low drives. For us, there is more to a low libido than just blood flow.
The good news: once you identify possible causes for your lukewarm libido you can start to look at yourself, not just physically, to home in on a solution.
Trust is the best aphrodisiac.
Guys have it pretty easy when it comes to arousal: guy gets turned on, penis takes over, brain shuts down and enjoyment ensues. We, however, do not have it quite so easily. For us to even fell the slightest bit of arousal our heads need to be in the game, and until it is, guys, you do not get to put your head in our game. Got it? Even women who show the physical signs of being turned on below the belt, if their head isn't in it they aren't going to feel very much.
For many women sex is just one more thing to think about. We are very aware that it is an important part of a relationship, however at the end of an already long day it is one more thing to occupy space in our heads, which doesn't exactly help with the "oh baby" factor. This is particularly true with women who are naturally over thinkers and/or naturally more anxious than others. To help her warm her libido up she needs to know she can trust you and you're going to be supportive and understanding of her. Just because you may be in the mood does not mean the timing is right for her. If you're in the mood and she's not either let it go, or go have a hot shower and a date with the Palmetta twins. You being in the mood while she isn't is not a free pass to pounce on her anyway. She needs to trust that you will respect her when she isn't quite in the game.
Cure it with Confidence
For many women not all low libidos are caused by anxiety. Low self esteem can be the biggest buzzkill for many women. Add to this the fact that many women approach sex from the wrong angle: we've been inundated with the notion that sex is for him and about his needs, and not our own.
We have also had it beat into our heads what sexy looks like - which is usually 5'11", big boobed, legs up to her chin and not a jiggle to be found anywhere on her body (because those boobs are fake so they don't jiggle either). We need to reprogram our way of thinking to realize that the anorexic look of the models in magazines, on our computer screens and on TV are not realistic. Why? Because most of us enjoy food on a regular basis. And because who's to say my 5'6" jiggly self isn't knock-out sexy? Sexy comes in a wide variety of packages. Embrace yours. And love yourself for who you are, right now, in this moment. You're worth it, you really are. And always remember: YOU'RE HOT!
Build it with Bondage
(not that kind of bondage....focus for a second, would ya)
Sometimes its not anxiety or hormones that cause a lady's sex drive to nosedive. Sometimes life just gets in the way, especially if life has managed to throw you a mother of a curve ball that you weren't quite able to duck out of the way from.
Most women agree sex is about connection. So when something major in your life happens, your emotions take over, walls go up it is pretty difficult to connect with your partner.
Guys, if your lady is going through a rough patch here is a tip for you: nurture her. Do not pressure her. Do not give her ultimatums. Be gentle with her for awhile. Bond with her (see, this is where the bondage part comes in). Just be OK with simply spending time with her without having to get naked or expecting a BJ from her - sometimes you do have to do nice things for her and not expect anything in return. Eventually she will make sex a priority again and will be more apt to want it. And when she does want it that thing about being gentle I mentioned just a moment ago still applies. Sex for us girls is hugely emotional, and if she has been working through some tough life stuff now is not the time for kinky, weird, acrobatic sex. Play nicely with her, she'll appreciate it.
xoxo
L
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Monday, March 26, 2012
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Slippery When Wet
Ok, before I jump into this post I would like to apologize for the excessive absence. Life got in the way and a few things took a seat on the back burner. I'm back, and hopefully Av isn't too far behind me!
Lube. Too much of it or too little of it can make a sack session a flop. But, just the right amount will boost your down-there sensations.
Lubrication is your body's way of telling you you are turned on and good to go. Without it, comfortable, successful sex just isn't going to happen.
Every woman's body is different and therefore lubricates differently. There is no normal amount. But if you find yourself drier than the Sahara even when you're ready to jump his bones, don't worry. Figuring out why will help you both enjoy a smooth ride.
Many women complain of down-there dryness. The common cause? Rushing through foreplay. Don't dive in for the main course if you aren't fully aroused. Its got bad news written all over it and will only lead to painful, uncomfortable sex, and possibly yeast infections. Fun, eh?
Even if you don't have an issue self lubricating, many women reported having better sex after using store-bought lube. It seems the extra slip made sex more satisfying. If you want to give a store bought lube a try look for a water-based option, over silicone, petroleum, or oil. Most couples prefer it, and its safe for use with a condom.
Remember, a little lube goes a long way. You don't need to slather it on. It may take a bit of trial and error to figure out what amount works for you. Start sparingly and increase if needed.
Want to try lube? Give these ones a whirl....
Turn up the heat with K-Y Brand Warming Liquid. It claims to produce a gentle warming (not hot!) sensation. Just double-check your guy's love glove: The liquid is recommended for use with latex condoms only.
Flavored lubes like dessert-y BabeLicious or herb-and flower-infused Good Clean Love, an eco-friendly pick, take the "job" out of a BJ. Since they're glycerin-free, he won't have to rinse off presex.
Lube. Too much of it or too little of it can make a sack session a flop. But, just the right amount will boost your down-there sensations.
Lubrication is your body's way of telling you you are turned on and good to go. Without it, comfortable, successful sex just isn't going to happen.
Every woman's body is different and therefore lubricates differently. There is no normal amount. But if you find yourself drier than the Sahara even when you're ready to jump his bones, don't worry. Figuring out why will help you both enjoy a smooth ride.
Many women complain of down-there dryness. The common cause? Rushing through foreplay. Don't dive in for the main course if you aren't fully aroused. Its got bad news written all over it and will only lead to painful, uncomfortable sex, and possibly yeast infections. Fun, eh?
Even if you don't have an issue self lubricating, many women reported having better sex after using store-bought lube. It seems the extra slip made sex more satisfying. If you want to give a store bought lube a try look for a water-based option, over silicone, petroleum, or oil. Most couples prefer it, and its safe for use with a condom.
Remember, a little lube goes a long way. You don't need to slather it on. It may take a bit of trial and error to figure out what amount works for you. Start sparingly and increase if needed.
Want to try lube? Give these ones a whirl....
Turn up the heat with K-Y Brand Warming Liquid. It claims to produce a gentle warming (not hot!) sensation. Just double-check your guy's love glove: The liquid is recommended for use with latex condoms only.
Flavored lubes like dessert-y BabeLicious or herb-and flower-infused Good Clean Love, an eco-friendly pick, take the "job" out of a BJ. Since they're glycerin-free, he won't have to rinse off presex.
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
The low down on his down there parts
The penis. 'Tis a mysterious organ. What with all its super powers and whatnot. And chances are you are already a fan. But because you do not have that certain appendage yourself it can be hard to understand how to get - and keep - it happy. So, the more you understand how it works the more connected you'll both be.
There are a few things that penises would like us ladies to know. So, if we could give the penis a voice, this is what it would say:
"Ditch the ruler"
When a man first makes the big reveal it may not be love at first sight, but do keep in mind that most penises end up being about the same size in length when they are at attention, regardless of the size they are when soft. On average a flaccid penis is four inches, while a soldier at attention is six. Even those that are a bit smaller than the four catch up in the end.
"Try anything, I'm not that picky....I swear"
I'm sure your guy will appreciate whatever move you bust out, even if its a complicated move taken straight from that Kama Sutra book you hide in your nightstand. But you don't really have to break a sweat to get him off.
The penis responds dramatically to direct touch. It is delightfully sensitive, especially around the head, where Mother Nature cleverly placed the primary nerve endings that produce his arousal and orgasm. Exactly what kind of touch will do the trick depends widely on the guy. Some like a firm, even rough, touch, while others prefer a more gentle, rhythmic touch. Some enjoy the friction of a dry touch, while others prefer a more moist touch. The point is, the penis will be greatful for any kind of attention it receives. So don't be shy, experiment with different degrees of firmness and speed.
"You can help me when I'm nervous"
There isn't much more that can flatline between the sheets action than performance anxiety. And 9 times out of 10 the issue with this lies between his ears not his legs.
Self-doubt travels from the brain to the penis in record time. So whether you're with him for the first time (you're an unfamiliar partner) or he feels pressure to measure up to some hypothetical sexual standard, his little buddy may let him down.
If you sense your guy is starting to tense up, encourage him to tell you about it. Him knowing you're accepting of him will greatly help. You can do your part by calming him down, reassuring him and taking the pressure off. If that doesn't work try again, and again. (and again.)
"I like it hot"
So its a good thing most couples honeymoon in Hawaii and not Northern Siberia. When the penis gets hit with cold air or cold water (or even cool lube) the skin contracts, the scrotal sac shrinks and the testicals retract.
"I rise and shine"
Morning sex is a great way to bust out of your normal bedroom routine (not to knock a morning jog) and its a pretty great wake up call. It clears the tension and shakes the cob webs off you both. And the good news: your guy's penis is actually wired for it. A lot of men prefer morning sex because of their so called morning-wood. Be assured that after a morning roll in the hay you'll both like what you see in the mirror - and you've set right tone for the day!
xoxo
L
There are a few things that penises would like us ladies to know. So, if we could give the penis a voice, this is what it would say:
"Ditch the ruler"
When a man first makes the big reveal it may not be love at first sight, but do keep in mind that most penises end up being about the same size in length when they are at attention, regardless of the size they are when soft. On average a flaccid penis is four inches, while a soldier at attention is six. Even those that are a bit smaller than the four catch up in the end.
"Try anything, I'm not that picky....I swear"
I'm sure your guy will appreciate whatever move you bust out, even if its a complicated move taken straight from that Kama Sutra book you hide in your nightstand. But you don't really have to break a sweat to get him off.
The penis responds dramatically to direct touch. It is delightfully sensitive, especially around the head, where Mother Nature cleverly placed the primary nerve endings that produce his arousal and orgasm. Exactly what kind of touch will do the trick depends widely on the guy. Some like a firm, even rough, touch, while others prefer a more gentle, rhythmic touch. Some enjoy the friction of a dry touch, while others prefer a more moist touch. The point is, the penis will be greatful for any kind of attention it receives. So don't be shy, experiment with different degrees of firmness and speed.
"You can help me when I'm nervous"
There isn't much more that can flatline between the sheets action than performance anxiety. And 9 times out of 10 the issue with this lies between his ears not his legs.
Self-doubt travels from the brain to the penis in record time. So whether you're with him for the first time (you're an unfamiliar partner) or he feels pressure to measure up to some hypothetical sexual standard, his little buddy may let him down.
If you sense your guy is starting to tense up, encourage him to tell you about it. Him knowing you're accepting of him will greatly help. You can do your part by calming him down, reassuring him and taking the pressure off. If that doesn't work try again, and again. (and again.)
"I like it hot"
So its a good thing most couples honeymoon in Hawaii and not Northern Siberia. When the penis gets hit with cold air or cold water (or even cool lube) the skin contracts, the scrotal sac shrinks and the testicals retract.
"I rise and shine"
Morning sex is a great way to bust out of your normal bedroom routine (not to knock a morning jog) and its a pretty great wake up call. It clears the tension and shakes the cob webs off you both. And the good news: your guy's penis is actually wired for it. A lot of men prefer morning sex because of their so called morning-wood. Be assured that after a morning roll in the hay you'll both like what you see in the mirror - and you've set right tone for the day!
xoxo
L
Monday, August 1, 2011
Things Women Wish You Knew
Ok, so she's naked. Nice! Easy boy. No matter how naked or not naked she is, there are things she's not willing (0r able) to tell you. Here are some of the things she wishes you knew about her. Perhaps you will be able to help her enjoy herself and her body as much as you do. Read on..
1) Kiss her neck. Neck kissing = instant arousal = necessary change in undies.
In today's "pornified" world neck kissing, nibbling and nuzzling connotes intimacy, not eroticism.
2) She's all ears. The ears, inside and out, are packed with nerve endings. Lightly breathe warm air into her ear. Some women have noted if they are close to finishing during sex, a slight breath or touch to her ear can send her over the edge.
3)Play with her hair. Gentle tugging stimulates nerve endings, and it just feels good. Playing with her tresses may signal bonding to her as well.
4)Look at her. We're not talking lustful stares. We're talking making a point of making eye contact with her when she tells you about her day or when you compliment her.
5)She likes to watch. Ok, we're visual creatures too. We're not the only ones that respond to seeing a naked body. Women like to see their man's manlihood just as much as men like to see our girlie bits.
6)We love to see you savour our body. Not all women are into nipple stimulation, however watching you lick and suck is damn sexy.
7)Adore her butt. Keep your paws off it in public though. Instead go for more subtle areas. However many women agree that their butt is their least favorite body part. When you grab it during sex or just as I walk by you tells us you love it. And we love that you love it.
8)Make her slippery. Remember the neck thing I mentioned earlier? Yeah, that'll do it. However, just because she's wet doesn't mean she's ready to go. So forget the dipstick test "oh good, she's wet, let's go". Give it some more time. The more time you give her the more aroused she will be.
9)She's not shallow. There is more to the clitoris than just the tip. In fact it splits off into "legs" under her lips, each of which run down either side of the vagina. So, explore the areas surrounding the tip. You may just surprise her.
10) The G-Spot. It does exist. However, many women say they find it difficult to find on their own. So this is where you come in. The usual "come hither" may work to find it. Other wome prefer firm tapping or a circular motion.
11) Be Rough. But do it gently. Many of us like it when we feel weak, even if we're not actually. Be aggressive in your delivery but also be attentive to her needs. Men complain women are often timid of handling their penis in fear of hurting them. Women say the same about their body. Try the take-control move she craves: pinning her down on the bed is the aggressive move most likely to flip her switch.
xoxo
L
1) Kiss her neck. Neck kissing = instant arousal = necessary change in undies.
In today's "pornified" world neck kissing, nibbling and nuzzling connotes intimacy, not eroticism.
2) She's all ears. The ears, inside and out, are packed with nerve endings. Lightly breathe warm air into her ear. Some women have noted if they are close to finishing during sex, a slight breath or touch to her ear can send her over the edge.
3)Play with her hair. Gentle tugging stimulates nerve endings, and it just feels good. Playing with her tresses may signal bonding to her as well.
4)Look at her. We're not talking lustful stares. We're talking making a point of making eye contact with her when she tells you about her day or when you compliment her.
5)She likes to watch. Ok, we're visual creatures too. We're not the only ones that respond to seeing a naked body. Women like to see their man's manlihood just as much as men like to see our girlie bits.
6)We love to see you savour our body. Not all women are into nipple stimulation, however watching you lick and suck is damn sexy.
7)Adore her butt. Keep your paws off it in public though. Instead go for more subtle areas. However many women agree that their butt is their least favorite body part. When you grab it during sex or just as I walk by you tells us you love it. And we love that you love it.
8)Make her slippery. Remember the neck thing I mentioned earlier? Yeah, that'll do it. However, just because she's wet doesn't mean she's ready to go. So forget the dipstick test "oh good, she's wet, let's go". Give it some more time. The more time you give her the more aroused she will be.
9)She's not shallow. There is more to the clitoris than just the tip. In fact it splits off into "legs" under her lips, each of which run down either side of the vagina. So, explore the areas surrounding the tip. You may just surprise her.
10) The G-Spot. It does exist. However, many women say they find it difficult to find on their own. So this is where you come in. The usual "come hither" may work to find it. Other wome prefer firm tapping or a circular motion.
11) Be Rough. But do it gently. Many of us like it when we feel weak, even if we're not actually. Be aggressive in your delivery but also be attentive to her needs. Men complain women are often timid of handling their penis in fear of hurting them. Women say the same about their body. Try the take-control move she craves: pinning her down on the bed is the aggressive move most likely to flip her switch.
xoxo
L
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
The 8 Kinds of Sex Every Couple Should Have
The hottest couples don't just have great sex - they have embarassing sex, make-up sex, and wild can't-walk-the-next-day sex. Every kind of sex is crucial for your bond. Yes, even the couldn't-quite-stay-awake-to-finish sex.
Sure you have good sex. Ideally it would be fantastic, and often. But, there is more to a solid sex life than just straight-up sex. A truly amazing sex life encompasses lots of different kinds of sex - maybe ones you wouldn't expect. Afterall, your relationship isn't one not, so why should your sex life?
1) Pushing the Boundaries Sex
There is nothing quite like lying naked next to the man you've loved for a long time, panting and puffing thinking "wow, we've never done that before"
-if you're used to missionary try a new position in a new room in the house
-if you're used to stimulation by body parts it may be time to experiment with toys
2) Maintenance Sex
Let's be honest - sex isn't always going to be an eye glazing, spiritual encounter. Some couples think everything has to feel perfect or you both have to be in a sexual mood to have sex. But if everyone waited for that sex wouldn't happen very often. That's where maintenance sex comes in - where you just do it even if your engine isn't raring for a ride.
Just-for-the-hell-of-it sex is vital for long term relationships because no matter how much you love your family, friends and your kids, no matter how much time you spend with them you won't spend time like this with anyone else. It helps keep your bond unique and strong.
And don't forget how good regular sex is for you: it relieves stress and burns calories. It also keeps your sex engine running. So, having sex even when you're not really in the mood keeps the engine primed and ready for something hotter later.
3)Embarassing Moment Sex
Its bound to happen. One of you lets out an awkward grunt. Your sweat soaked skin slaps together in a cringe inducing fashion. Or your partner pulls or pushes in such away to creat a "scchllluuup". As mortifying as these things can be - even with someone you've been with for a long time - it is a remind that sex is raw: Discovery Channel kind of raw.
Its not supposed to be flawless. Sex is full of sights and smells and sounds. It's natural. Human bodies do funny things sometimes. And that is OK.
And your ability to deal with a red-in-the-face moment -whether you laugh it off or give eachother a sympathetic squeeze - says a lot about your bond with eachother.
4)Vacation Sex
Vacation sex is a vital part of a healthy sex life. On vacation you're at your most carefree which means you can try new things you won't have to be accountable for at home. In other words, have sex on the beach, or in a car.
Often if life in the bedroom is feeling blah it is usually your surroundings that are getting you down, not your partner. So, if you haven't had vacation sex recently, DO IT! You don't necessarily need a plane ticket. Find your way to a downtown hotel and call it a vacation.
5)Slow-road-to-sleep Sex
We all know that in life its the journey that really matters, not the destination. The same applies for sex (in some cases). That means not every sexual encounter should be focused on orgasms. The truth is, not every sexual encounter goes anywhere at all. There are some nights you start out on the journey, you want to keep going but boy-oh-boy sleeps sounds pretty darn good right now. And thats where things peter out. And thats OK.
6) Make Up Sex
Ok, so we all know we're not supposed to go to bed angry. And sometimes you can take that to a different extreme, ensuring that after a fight you go to bed happy, very very happy. Yup, thats right: wild, intense make up sex: one minute you're reeling in anger, the next you're rolling around in wild, passionate love making. Make up sex works because after a fight you're raw, exposed and vulnerable - perfect conditions for soul-to-soul bonding.
7)Comfort Sex
If you're sad, angry, depressed, grieving alone....sex can be the perfect antidote. Why? Because it is the opposite of all those things. It is close and warm, loving and together. And sometimes talking about your problems isn't what you want, but sex is.
The healing act of sex can help people who feel torn apart from eachother during a difficult period. Sex can help restore the intimate relationship you have.
8) Crazy Hang-from-the-chandelier Sex
You know what I'm talking about: wild, sweaty and so good it makes you dizzy sex. No matter how long you've been together you need to have earthshaking sex every so often.
This kind of sex is important on a deeper level: it requires a lot of trust and intimacy to allow your partner to see you in the throes of sexual abandon. And let's not forget how much a toe-curling orgasm does to keep your eyes bright and your soul smiling!
xoxo
L
Sure you have good sex. Ideally it would be fantastic, and often. But, there is more to a solid sex life than just straight-up sex. A truly amazing sex life encompasses lots of different kinds of sex - maybe ones you wouldn't expect. Afterall, your relationship isn't one not, so why should your sex life?
1) Pushing the Boundaries Sex
There is nothing quite like lying naked next to the man you've loved for a long time, panting and puffing thinking "wow, we've never done that before"
-if you're used to missionary try a new position in a new room in the house
-if you're used to stimulation by body parts it may be time to experiment with toys
2) Maintenance Sex
Let's be honest - sex isn't always going to be an eye glazing, spiritual encounter. Some couples think everything has to feel perfect or you both have to be in a sexual mood to have sex. But if everyone waited for that sex wouldn't happen very often. That's where maintenance sex comes in - where you just do it even if your engine isn't raring for a ride.
Just-for-the-hell-of-it sex is vital for long term relationships because no matter how much you love your family, friends and your kids, no matter how much time you spend with them you won't spend time like this with anyone else. It helps keep your bond unique and strong.
And don't forget how good regular sex is for you: it relieves stress and burns calories. It also keeps your sex engine running. So, having sex even when you're not really in the mood keeps the engine primed and ready for something hotter later.
3)Embarassing Moment Sex
Its bound to happen. One of you lets out an awkward grunt. Your sweat soaked skin slaps together in a cringe inducing fashion. Or your partner pulls or pushes in such away to creat a "scchllluuup". As mortifying as these things can be - even with someone you've been with for a long time - it is a remind that sex is raw: Discovery Channel kind of raw.
Its not supposed to be flawless. Sex is full of sights and smells and sounds. It's natural. Human bodies do funny things sometimes. And that is OK.
And your ability to deal with a red-in-the-face moment -whether you laugh it off or give eachother a sympathetic squeeze - says a lot about your bond with eachother.
4)Vacation Sex
Vacation sex is a vital part of a healthy sex life. On vacation you're at your most carefree which means you can try new things you won't have to be accountable for at home. In other words, have sex on the beach, or in a car.
Often if life in the bedroom is feeling blah it is usually your surroundings that are getting you down, not your partner. So, if you haven't had vacation sex recently, DO IT! You don't necessarily need a plane ticket. Find your way to a downtown hotel and call it a vacation.
5)Slow-road-to-sleep Sex
We all know that in life its the journey that really matters, not the destination. The same applies for sex (in some cases). That means not every sexual encounter should be focused on orgasms. The truth is, not every sexual encounter goes anywhere at all. There are some nights you start out on the journey, you want to keep going but boy-oh-boy sleeps sounds pretty darn good right now. And thats where things peter out. And thats OK.
6) Make Up Sex
Ok, so we all know we're not supposed to go to bed angry. And sometimes you can take that to a different extreme, ensuring that after a fight you go to bed happy, very very happy. Yup, thats right: wild, intense make up sex: one minute you're reeling in anger, the next you're rolling around in wild, passionate love making. Make up sex works because after a fight you're raw, exposed and vulnerable - perfect conditions for soul-to-soul bonding.
7)Comfort Sex
If you're sad, angry, depressed, grieving alone....sex can be the perfect antidote. Why? Because it is the opposite of all those things. It is close and warm, loving and together. And sometimes talking about your problems isn't what you want, but sex is.
The healing act of sex can help people who feel torn apart from eachother during a difficult period. Sex can help restore the intimate relationship you have.
8) Crazy Hang-from-the-chandelier Sex
You know what I'm talking about: wild, sweaty and so good it makes you dizzy sex. No matter how long you've been together you need to have earthshaking sex every so often.
This kind of sex is important on a deeper level: it requires a lot of trust and intimacy to allow your partner to see you in the throes of sexual abandon. And let's not forget how much a toe-curling orgasm does to keep your eyes bright and your soul smiling!
xoxo
L
Anal Sex: why she loves it and hates it
Anal is one of those things: she either loves it or hates it. There is very little middle ground. Most women have tried it at least once and a fair lot of them will never dare again. The reason: pain. If there is no pain then there is pleasure. Hence, love or hate .
The Allure of Anal Sex
For men and women anal sex is a different, tighter sensation - it's naughty and provides variety to normal sex.
Why She Loves It
Women who love it love it because it can feel incredible. Its different in sensation, and doesn't feel like anything she's likely felt before: its deep inside, it isn't her clitoris and it isn't her vagina - but strangely it feels both in a weird mixed up way. If you stimulate her clitoris once you're inside her anal orgasms are possible.
She also loves it because its naughty. People love to be naughty sometimes, and anal sex is one of those things you do completely privately and no one will ever know your naughty side besides you and your partner.
Why She Hates It
Because it can hurt. Anal sex is not easy to master when you haven't had much practice. For men it seems simple: in-and-out. But its not that simple. Women will sometimes endure the pain for one of two reasons: a) she wants to like it or b) she wants you to like it.
If you're not very careful, if you do not warm her up properly, and if you don't go slowly enough you will likely hurt her, which will greatly reduce your chances of trying it again.
She may also be worried about creating a mess. Let's be honest, given the locale we are speaking of here it is obviously a hot spot for creating a mess. Women spend time making sure they look and smell great and to have something ruin it can be mildly devastating.
Lube is essential.
The anal canal does not produce its own lubricant so you must provide your own.
Tease Her
Turn her on. It is very important that she be very well turned on before you go anywhere near her back door. When she is turned on her body is much more open to you. She needs to be aching for you to touch her. Get her to the point she is begging you for it - and do it without pentrating her with anything. Anticipation is one of the greatest sexual tools you've got, use it to your advantage.
What Not To Do. Ever.
Do not ever enter her without her express permission. Do not treat her like a scoring device. She is not an object for you to blow into or onto. If she is willing to share her derriere with you treat it and her with respect.
What To Do. Always.
Always use lube. If requested to wear a condom do so without whining. Do as she asks - anal sex is a delicate situation and she needs to be able to trust you.
Anal sex is many things for many people. Do it right and you'll get to do it again. Do it wrong and you may be doomed forever. Ok, maybe not forever, but for as long as it takes for her to forget how bad it was the first time around.
xoxo
L
The Allure of Anal Sex
For men and women anal sex is a different, tighter sensation - it's naughty and provides variety to normal sex.
Why She Loves It
Women who love it love it because it can feel incredible. Its different in sensation, and doesn't feel like anything she's likely felt before: its deep inside, it isn't her clitoris and it isn't her vagina - but strangely it feels both in a weird mixed up way. If you stimulate her clitoris once you're inside her anal orgasms are possible.
She also loves it because its naughty. People love to be naughty sometimes, and anal sex is one of those things you do completely privately and no one will ever know your naughty side besides you and your partner.
Why She Hates It
Because it can hurt. Anal sex is not easy to master when you haven't had much practice. For men it seems simple: in-and-out. But its not that simple. Women will sometimes endure the pain for one of two reasons: a) she wants to like it or b) she wants you to like it.
If you're not very careful, if you do not warm her up properly, and if you don't go slowly enough you will likely hurt her, which will greatly reduce your chances of trying it again.
She may also be worried about creating a mess. Let's be honest, given the locale we are speaking of here it is obviously a hot spot for creating a mess. Women spend time making sure they look and smell great and to have something ruin it can be mildly devastating.
Lube is essential.
The anal canal does not produce its own lubricant so you must provide your own.
Tease Her
Turn her on. It is very important that she be very well turned on before you go anywhere near her back door. When she is turned on her body is much more open to you. She needs to be aching for you to touch her. Get her to the point she is begging you for it - and do it without pentrating her with anything. Anticipation is one of the greatest sexual tools you've got, use it to your advantage.
What Not To Do. Ever.
Do not ever enter her without her express permission. Do not treat her like a scoring device. She is not an object for you to blow into or onto. If she is willing to share her derriere with you treat it and her with respect.
What To Do. Always.
Always use lube. If requested to wear a condom do so without whining. Do as she asks - anal sex is a delicate situation and she needs to be able to trust you.
Anal sex is many things for many people. Do it right and you'll get to do it again. Do it wrong and you may be doomed forever. Ok, maybe not forever, but for as long as it takes for her to forget how bad it was the first time around.
xoxo
L
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Assume the Position
Is your sex life screaming for a system upgrade? Has it withered in frequency or intensity? Or both? It has? Well that doesn't sound fun AT ALL. While its normal for couples to go through slumps and ruts, it shouldn't last for long, and it shouldn't be OK for either of you if it has. If you are finding yourself in such a predicatment, or you just want to be prepared for the next time it does, here is a list of orgasm inducing ways to get your grind on. They're sure to fulfill all your naughty needs!
Faceoff
How: he sits on a chair or the edge of the bed; you face him seated on his lap
Benefit: you control the angle and depth of thrust, and being seated gives support which makes it great for marathon sex!
Cowgirl's Helper
How: similar to the popular cowgirl, you kneel on top of him, pushing off his chest, and sliding up and down his thighs. But, he helps to support some of your weight by grabbing your hips while he rises to meet your thrust
Benefit: Makes climaxing easier, and female dominant positions delay his climax so everyone wins
Leapfrog
How: this is pretty well the same as doggy, however you keep your hips raised and rest your head on the bed or a pillow
Benefit: creates deeper penetration
Ballet Dancer
How: standing on one foot wrap the other leg around his wasit while he supports you
Benefit: allows for closeness and reconnection
Missionary
How: lie on your back while he lies down facing you
Benefit: simple, elegant, and very effective. And it allows for closeness and eye contact
Doggy
How: you kneel on hands and knees, with his body upright or slightly draped over you he enters from behind
Benefit: allows for deeper penetration, and for clitoral stimulation - do it yourself or have him stimulate you
The Caboose
How: While he sits on the bed back yourself into him, spooning eachother while seated
Benefit: Because you can't see your partner fantasizing is easier, which can add to the excitement.
Reverse Cowgirl
How: with him lying on his back, straddle him facing his feet
Benefit: lets you take control, showing your guy the pace and rhythm you like
Scoop Me Up
How: both of you lie on your sides facing the same direction (a la spooning), bring your knees up slightly while he slides up behind your pelvis and enters you from behind
Benefit: allows for more skin-to-skin contact
Reverse Scoop
How: From the missionary position, without disengaging, roll onto your sides, facing eachother
Benefit: you get the same full-body contact and get to look into eachother's eyes
Magic Mountain
How: He sits, legs bent, leaning back on his arms. You do the same inching your way toward him until you connect.
Benefit: You'll feel really connected with him being able to look into his eyes. For an addded bonus, grind your clitoris against his pelvis.
The Chairman
How: he sits on the edge of the bed, you sit in his lap facing away
Benefit: this will hit THE spot - as in the G-spot.
The Cowboy
How: He straddles you, and enters you through your semi-closed legs
Benefit: The tightness increases the intensity of penetration
Golden Arch
How: He sits with his legs straight, leaning back on his arms. You inch closer to him, with your knees bent and legs over his thighs, leaning back on your arms
Benefit: Gives you control of the depth, speed, and angle of thrusts
The Seashell
How: Lie on your back, raise your legs all the way up, crossing your ankles behind your own head
Benefit: leaves your hands free for clitoral stimulation. Have him "ride high" so his pubic bone rubs against your clitoris, or "ride low" so the head of his member hits the G-spot.
**if you are among the inflexible, I don't recommend this one. You'll get stuck, and it'll be uncomfortable. For those of you who are...GIVE'ER!
The Om
How: He sits crosslegged (yoga style), you sit in his lap facing him, wrap your legs around him
Benefit: Best for tantric sex, rocking not thrusting is key for this very intimate position
Valedictorian
How: From missionary raise your legs and spread them into a V
Benefit: Allows for increased contact around your girlie bits
xoxo
L
Faceoff
How: he sits on a chair or the edge of the bed; you face him seated on his lap
Benefit: you control the angle and depth of thrust, and being seated gives support which makes it great for marathon sex!
Cowgirl's Helper
How: similar to the popular cowgirl, you kneel on top of him, pushing off his chest, and sliding up and down his thighs. But, he helps to support some of your weight by grabbing your hips while he rises to meet your thrust
Benefit: Makes climaxing easier, and female dominant positions delay his climax so everyone wins
Leapfrog
How: this is pretty well the same as doggy, however you keep your hips raised and rest your head on the bed or a pillow
Benefit: creates deeper penetration
Ballet Dancer
How: standing on one foot wrap the other leg around his wasit while he supports you
Benefit: allows for closeness and reconnection
Missionary
How: lie on your back while he lies down facing you
Benefit: simple, elegant, and very effective. And it allows for closeness and eye contact
Doggy
How: you kneel on hands and knees, with his body upright or slightly draped over you he enters from behind
Benefit: allows for deeper penetration, and for clitoral stimulation - do it yourself or have him stimulate you
The Caboose
How: While he sits on the bed back yourself into him, spooning eachother while seated
Benefit: Because you can't see your partner fantasizing is easier, which can add to the excitement.
Reverse Cowgirl
How: with him lying on his back, straddle him facing his feet
Benefit: lets you take control, showing your guy the pace and rhythm you like
Scoop Me Up
How: both of you lie on your sides facing the same direction (a la spooning), bring your knees up slightly while he slides up behind your pelvis and enters you from behind
Benefit: allows for more skin-to-skin contact
Reverse Scoop
How: From the missionary position, without disengaging, roll onto your sides, facing eachother
Benefit: you get the same full-body contact and get to look into eachother's eyes
Magic Mountain
How: He sits, legs bent, leaning back on his arms. You do the same inching your way toward him until you connect.
Benefit: You'll feel really connected with him being able to look into his eyes. For an addded bonus, grind your clitoris against his pelvis.
The Chairman
How: he sits on the edge of the bed, you sit in his lap facing away
Benefit: this will hit THE spot - as in the G-spot.
The Cowboy
How: He straddles you, and enters you through your semi-closed legs
Benefit: The tightness increases the intensity of penetration
Golden Arch
How: He sits with his legs straight, leaning back on his arms. You inch closer to him, with your knees bent and legs over his thighs, leaning back on your arms
Benefit: Gives you control of the depth, speed, and angle of thrusts
The Seashell
How: Lie on your back, raise your legs all the way up, crossing your ankles behind your own head
Benefit: leaves your hands free for clitoral stimulation. Have him "ride high" so his pubic bone rubs against your clitoris, or "ride low" so the head of his member hits the G-spot.
**if you are among the inflexible, I don't recommend this one. You'll get stuck, and it'll be uncomfortable. For those of you who are...GIVE'ER!
The Om
How: He sits crosslegged (yoga style), you sit in his lap facing him, wrap your legs around him
Benefit: Best for tantric sex, rocking not thrusting is key for this very intimate position
Valedictorian
How: From missionary raise your legs and spread them into a V
Benefit: Allows for increased contact around your girlie bits
xoxo
L
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
The Female O
The female orgasm. Women want to have them. Men want to deliver them. Far too often the woman's O falls among the ranks of the Sasquatch- great and magical in theory, but not something that is easily stumbled upon.
Sure the female orgasm is fickle. If you follow these pointers you have the greatest chance of seeing one in the wild, in it's natural habitat. So sit down and listen up. Female Orgasm 101 is in session
#1 - take her off the clock. Like you worry about not lasting long enough she worries about taking too long to reach orgasm, so many women end up faking one or deciding to go without. So stop obsessing over orgasms - your's and her's. Take the pressure off. Relaxation is the single most important factor in bringing a woman to orgasm.
Tell her she has all night. The more you convey a tolerance for a lengthy buildup and an appreciation for her pleasure the more likely she is to unwind and blast off into orbit. It can take up to 40mins (if not more) for a woman to reach orgasm. Going somewhere?
#2- turn her on with your talent. The best sex starts before the clothes come off. Talent - more than rugged good looks or washboard abs - is a powerful aphrodisiac. So, nail that song during karaoke. Make her die laughing during your less than stellar dart game. Yup, humor is a talent too.
#3- when she's naked, speak up. Women worry about how they look. They also worry about how they look down there, which makes it difficult for them to O during oral. Clearly you have everything to gain with flattery. If you love the way she looks (and you do, right?) naked, speak up!
#4- learn how she likes to be touched. One thing we love during manual stimulation is a slow buildup. Place the heel of one hand just above her clitoris. Now, run your ring and middle fingers along her outter lips. Gently graze the skin at first adding pressure as the tension builds. In the beginning she may be too sensitive for direct clitoral stimulation. Give it a few minutes then gently work your way to the hot spot.
#5- learn to sense her orgasm. Ease into oral sex, don't just dive right in. Kiss her inner thighs, the move to her outter lips, eventually moving inside, with firm, broad strokes with your tongue. Watch her hips for a rhythm she likes. Listen to her moans and gasps to tell you you're on the right path.
#6- follow her lead. Once you've reached the point of no return you could climax if a marching band made its way through your bedroom. Your lady, not so much. She'll like hit the off switch if you move or change up midway to orgasm. We love it when you try new things, but once you've found a winner stick with it until she crosses the finish line.
#7- let her finish first. Stalking the tandem orgasm is admirable. However, most women prefer a "ladies first" approach. If you rub the clitoris for a long time, during penetration for example, it can become too sore or desensitized to respond to oral or manual stimulation later. So, satisfy her before intercourse. Bonus: a woman's orgasm threshold drops after her first one, so it is often easier to bring her to orgasm during intercourse after she's already had one. How's that sound for an encore?
So there you go. A few tips and tricks to get you started on helping your lady reach orgasm. Believe me, if you put these to practice she will thank you for it later!
xoxo
L
Reasons she has sex with you
Remember when you first discovered sex? Likely somewhere around the age of 7 or so. In your 7-year-old mind you learned your parents had done the dirty twice: once to create you and once to crank out your little sister. Then a few years down the road you learned that propagation is only a small part of sex. In fact it is only one of a host of reasons we humans hook up. One university study showed there are 237 reasons why we hook up - who knew?!
While we know why you, boys, enjoy sex, her reasons often remain slightly more mysterious. Lucky for you I'm here to decode some of that mystery for you! Yes, you can thank me later!
You're a good kisser: So what if you're not a hormonal teenager anymore. You're never too old for a steamy makeout session. In fact, a well executed kiss could be your golden ticket to the main event. Unlike men, we women are less likely to have sex with a bad kisser. Sounds simple enough, right? Down boy. Her definition of a great kiss may just be different than your's. Studies show men like wetter kisses with lots of tongue action. Us ladies prefer someone who makes the first move, smells and tastes fresh and caresses her while kissing.
Note from L: I just wanted to say- us ladies love a great make out session. We really, really do. It primes our engines for the main event. Its close, it connects us...and really, is just really great to have a hot make out session with our man. So really, this is one you probably shouldn't skip too often!
It seems like the natural next move in the relationship: You've wooed her. You've wined her and dined her. And still no sex. The missing link? Commitment. Don't panic, commitment doesn't have to mean a ring. Make sure we know you're in it, emotionally, for the long haul.
You caress her: most women like to be touched, gently. Gently glide your fingers over her forearm where there are plenty of pleasure nerves just waiting to be touched. Play with our hair. I for one love the feeling of having my hair played with. Caressing us sends signals of affection and trust to the brain.
You make her feel sexy: Establish your compliments safety zone. Listen to what she says about herself and watch how she reacts when you touch her. This will clue you in to the body parts she is insecure about, and let's you know where to tread lightly. She can easily take a well-meaning compliment and turn it negative. You may say "you have a great, round butt" and she hears fat, not great. When it comes to her sensitive spots, stick to more generic compliments: "your butt looks great in those jeans".
Your physical appearance turns her on: most women perfer muscle definition to muscle mass (move over, meatheads). Men with big, bulging muscles can appear threatening to a woman. We also know it takes time to build up those big muscles and that is time you won't be spending with us. We're looking for signs of not only health but of commitment too.
She wants to feel emotionally close or connected: start the foreplay outside the bedroom. Rave about the great donuts at the office today. Sharing something upbeat about your day strengthens your relationship. Talking and listening helps maintain emotional intimacy.
She's caught up in the heat of the moment: even if she rolls over its not too late to heat things up. Sidle up to her, spoon her (without anything poking into her back). Cuddling causes her testosterone to surge. Increased T levels spark a response in her clitoris which triggers arousal. Bonus: women feel more sexually attractive the morning after cuddling. Steamy shower sex, anyone?
She thinks it's fun: first, show her how much fun you can be outside the bedroom. Studies have shown that 25% of women are more likely to find a man attractive if he has a good sense of humor (see! its not as cliche as you think it is) and were then 31% more likely to think of him as a suitable mate.
She needs release or just feels horny: Suggest a horror movie marathon. Being scared is physicologically arousing and in the right company this can turn into sexual arousal. After the movie she may find your glances and touches more erotically charged. Just choose your movies wisely. If she isn't into over-the-top-terror she'll be like me and watch it from under the covers. We went her to be turned on and charged up, not fearing for her life.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder: it would appear the old adage is true. Take that business trip. While you're away her positive feelings of closeness, meaningfulness and appreciation will likely decline. However, upon your return they will return full force and surge to an all-time high. Just make sure you call while you're away to help reduce the chance of the negative feelings sticking around upon your return.
So there you have it. Some of the main reasons we have sex with you. None of it is rocket science. For us sex goes deeper than just the primal need. Yes, we get horny too, but beyond that we need to know you're there for us, and it starts outside the bedroom.
Happy sexing!
xoxo
L
While we know why you, boys, enjoy sex, her reasons often remain slightly more mysterious. Lucky for you I'm here to decode some of that mystery for you! Yes, you can thank me later!
You're a good kisser: So what if you're not a hormonal teenager anymore. You're never too old for a steamy makeout session. In fact, a well executed kiss could be your golden ticket to the main event. Unlike men, we women are less likely to have sex with a bad kisser. Sounds simple enough, right? Down boy. Her definition of a great kiss may just be different than your's. Studies show men like wetter kisses with lots of tongue action. Us ladies prefer someone who makes the first move, smells and tastes fresh and caresses her while kissing.
Note from L: I just wanted to say- us ladies love a great make out session. We really, really do. It primes our engines for the main event. Its close, it connects us...and really, is just really great to have a hot make out session with our man. So really, this is one you probably shouldn't skip too often!
It seems like the natural next move in the relationship: You've wooed her. You've wined her and dined her. And still no sex. The missing link? Commitment. Don't panic, commitment doesn't have to mean a ring. Make sure we know you're in it, emotionally, for the long haul.
You caress her: most women like to be touched, gently. Gently glide your fingers over her forearm where there are plenty of pleasure nerves just waiting to be touched. Play with our hair. I for one love the feeling of having my hair played with. Caressing us sends signals of affection and trust to the brain.
You make her feel sexy: Establish your compliments safety zone. Listen to what she says about herself and watch how she reacts when you touch her. This will clue you in to the body parts she is insecure about, and let's you know where to tread lightly. She can easily take a well-meaning compliment and turn it negative. You may say "you have a great, round butt" and she hears fat, not great. When it comes to her sensitive spots, stick to more generic compliments: "your butt looks great in those jeans".
Your physical appearance turns her on: most women perfer muscle definition to muscle mass (move over, meatheads). Men with big, bulging muscles can appear threatening to a woman. We also know it takes time to build up those big muscles and that is time you won't be spending with us. We're looking for signs of not only health but of commitment too.
She wants to feel emotionally close or connected: start the foreplay outside the bedroom. Rave about the great donuts at the office today. Sharing something upbeat about your day strengthens your relationship. Talking and listening helps maintain emotional intimacy.
She's caught up in the heat of the moment: even if she rolls over its not too late to heat things up. Sidle up to her, spoon her (without anything poking into her back). Cuddling causes her testosterone to surge. Increased T levels spark a response in her clitoris which triggers arousal. Bonus: women feel more sexually attractive the morning after cuddling. Steamy shower sex, anyone?
She thinks it's fun: first, show her how much fun you can be outside the bedroom. Studies have shown that 25% of women are more likely to find a man attractive if he has a good sense of humor (see! its not as cliche as you think it is) and were then 31% more likely to think of him as a suitable mate.
She needs release or just feels horny: Suggest a horror movie marathon. Being scared is physicologically arousing and in the right company this can turn into sexual arousal. After the movie she may find your glances and touches more erotically charged. Just choose your movies wisely. If she isn't into over-the-top-terror she'll be like me and watch it from under the covers. We went her to be turned on and charged up, not fearing for her life.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder: it would appear the old adage is true. Take that business trip. While you're away her positive feelings of closeness, meaningfulness and appreciation will likely decline. However, upon your return they will return full force and surge to an all-time high. Just make sure you call while you're away to help reduce the chance of the negative feelings sticking around upon your return.
So there you have it. Some of the main reasons we have sex with you. None of it is rocket science. For us sex goes deeper than just the primal need. Yes, we get horny too, but beyond that we need to know you're there for us, and it starts outside the bedroom.
Happy sexing!
xoxo
L
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Places to have sex outside this summer
There are many things to love about summer: going to the beach, iced coffee, or perhaps another season of Big Brother. Not the least of which is outdoor sex. Much like margaritas, sex can be even better when enjoyed al fresco. When the weather is warm and your horomones are fired up, here is a list of places to get it on this summer!
Your own backyard. This can be a great place to experiment with outdoor sex. You get all the sensory benefits of an outdoor experience while still having a bit of privacy.
On a roof, in a city, under the stars. The faint sound of traffic and people walking the streets your background soundtrack.
On a boat. Let the motion of the ocean set your pace.
In a tent in the woods. Just be sure to spray yourselves down with bug spray frist. Fly bites on naughty bits are no fun. No fun at all.
In the woods. Don't have a tent? Ok, no big. Go for a hike and somewhere along the way make yourselves horozontal and work up a different kind of sweat. There is just something raw and primal about having sex in nature. So yeah, try it.
On a big rock. (Hmmm...interesting. Never considered this one.)
In a dark alley. No safe, dark allies nearby? Thats ok, behind the movie theatre will do just fine!
On a picnic blanket on the beach. Just to make sure we're clear: ON a blanket. Sand in girly parts is a bit of a mood killer. Since we associate the beach with fun, vacation-like time, seaside loving can be quite exciting!
On a tire swing. I'll leave you to figure out the logistics of that one!
In a tree house. Don't have one? Borrow the 12-year old neighbour's. I'm sure they won't mind.
In a convertible with the top down. Just be sure to pull over first. (I know, it should go without saying, however when the mood strikes the mood strikes)
As always, sex is supposed to be fun. And outdoor sex just amps up the fun and makes it more primal. Just one small tip: do plan well where your outdoor adventure will take place. The last thing we want is for you to wind up with a public indecency charge. Much like fly bites on the naughty bits, that would be bad. Very very bad.
Got any to add? Any tried, tested and true locales for getting it on? Any that were an absolute flop? Let us know!
xoxo
L
Monday, May 23, 2011
Positions she enjoys
This just in: women like sex. They fantasize about sex just as much, if not more, as their male counterparts. Our fantasies cover the broad spectrum and various levels of kink. They almost always, however, include one of the five most popular positions among most women. The reason being is these positions include a perfect balance between difficulty and maximum pleasure. In other words, with these positions women enjoy loads of pleasure with minimal effort required to pull them off (yes, minimal effort. Really, who wants to have to deal with a flow chart to try to figure out the logistics of some positions? Yeah, I didn't think you would).
Now, don't worry. This isn't to say we don't love some of your favorites as well. We do. Sometimes we're good with acrobatic sex. When it comes down to the nitty gritty of it, there are some positions that just get women more wet than others.
Below is a list of the five most popular positions among women. Take note of them, boys. More importantly, USE THEM.
Private Lap Dance. Her on top. Many women love being on top for one simple reason: it makes her feel like she's in charge. And power is a heady aphrodisiac. Let her climb aboard and ride you off into the sunset. It may be tempting to just sit back and enjoy the ride, however if you want to really rock her world trace her breasts with your fingers or your tongue, trace your fingers down her sides. If she's on top facing you you also have access to a certain other hot spot of our's. Go there. No really, go there.
The comfort zone. aka: missionary. Don't overlook this one. It has potential for sorching hot sex. Why we like it? It feels great, and doesn't require gymnastics skills to pull it off. Take charge: lay her down, spread her legs apart by gently sliding your knee between them, place her wrists above her head and show her what you're made of. We often like displays of dominance in the bedroom (it is quite manly, you know) and this one allows you to be as subtle with it or as overt as you like. Want to take it to another level? Talk dirty. Lean in close and whisper a little something-something in her ear.
Stand at attention. Have her sit on a surface that stands level with your waist, then penetrate her as deeply as possible. The further her legs are spread the better (though remember what we said about acobatics? Yeah, some of us aren't that kind of flexible, so be gentle). Because her parts are now lined up with your parts this makes deep thrusting possible and incredibly easy for you, which also increases her chances of a g-spot O. So, clear a spot on the kitchen counter and get to it! (some men orgasm quite quickly with this one due to the deep thrusting. Don't be afraid to slow down, take a few deep breaths to get yourself under control again. Use this time for some manual stimulation on her)
Spoonful. The spoon makes for fabulous sex. Women like the feeling of her man's chest agaisnt her back and his arms wrapped around her. She also loves the feeling of being penetrated from behind. Why we love this? Because it is comfortable and still allows you to play with our breasts and our clitoris - and honestly most women can't get enough of that.
So, slide in behind her, pull her bottom backward and gently lift her leg up and back over your hip. Having her thighs speparated like this will make her feel delightfully naughty, and she'll probably arch her body to give you more access. Its comfortable and we enjoy it. Expect a great deal of moaning to ensue.
Hot diggity dog. Surprised to see doggy on the list? Many women love it (I'm one of them). In most cases we're wanting more than your average porn-flick style doggy. We want it to be a bit more intimate. Lean forward, whisper in our ear. Reach around and toy with our clit. Switch it up, pull us up into a kneeling position while you thrust. Women love doggy as long as you don't make us feel like objects.
As I mentioned earlier women love sex. We really do. And most of us will like at least one of these ones I just mentioned. Do remember, however, we may not like them all. Follow her cues, she'll pretty quickly tell you what she likes and what she doesn't. She will, however, likely be willing to experiment through them all for the sake of keeping things fresh. We do on occasion like kinky positions but sometimes we just want a man to penetrate us in a way we know will provide us with maximum pleasure. And one of these is sure to do it!
xoxo
L
Now, don't worry. This isn't to say we don't love some of your favorites as well. We do. Sometimes we're good with acrobatic sex. When it comes down to the nitty gritty of it, there are some positions that just get women more wet than others.
Below is a list of the five most popular positions among women. Take note of them, boys. More importantly, USE THEM.
Private Lap Dance. Her on top. Many women love being on top for one simple reason: it makes her feel like she's in charge. And power is a heady aphrodisiac. Let her climb aboard and ride you off into the sunset. It may be tempting to just sit back and enjoy the ride, however if you want to really rock her world trace her breasts with your fingers or your tongue, trace your fingers down her sides. If she's on top facing you you also have access to a certain other hot spot of our's. Go there. No really, go there.
The comfort zone. aka: missionary. Don't overlook this one. It has potential for sorching hot sex. Why we like it? It feels great, and doesn't require gymnastics skills to pull it off. Take charge: lay her down, spread her legs apart by gently sliding your knee between them, place her wrists above her head and show her what you're made of. We often like displays of dominance in the bedroom (it is quite manly, you know) and this one allows you to be as subtle with it or as overt as you like. Want to take it to another level? Talk dirty. Lean in close and whisper a little something-something in her ear.
Stand at attention. Have her sit on a surface that stands level with your waist, then penetrate her as deeply as possible. The further her legs are spread the better (though remember what we said about acobatics? Yeah, some of us aren't that kind of flexible, so be gentle). Because her parts are now lined up with your parts this makes deep thrusting possible and incredibly easy for you, which also increases her chances of a g-spot O. So, clear a spot on the kitchen counter and get to it! (some men orgasm quite quickly with this one due to the deep thrusting. Don't be afraid to slow down, take a few deep breaths to get yourself under control again. Use this time for some manual stimulation on her)
Spoonful. The spoon makes for fabulous sex. Women like the feeling of her man's chest agaisnt her back and his arms wrapped around her. She also loves the feeling of being penetrated from behind. Why we love this? Because it is comfortable and still allows you to play with our breasts and our clitoris - and honestly most women can't get enough of that.
So, slide in behind her, pull her bottom backward and gently lift her leg up and back over your hip. Having her thighs speparated like this will make her feel delightfully naughty, and she'll probably arch her body to give you more access. Its comfortable and we enjoy it. Expect a great deal of moaning to ensue.
Hot diggity dog. Surprised to see doggy on the list? Many women love it (I'm one of them). In most cases we're wanting more than your average porn-flick style doggy. We want it to be a bit more intimate. Lean forward, whisper in our ear. Reach around and toy with our clit. Switch it up, pull us up into a kneeling position while you thrust. Women love doggy as long as you don't make us feel like objects.
As I mentioned earlier women love sex. We really do. And most of us will like at least one of these ones I just mentioned. Do remember, however, we may not like them all. Follow her cues, she'll pretty quickly tell you what she likes and what she doesn't. She will, however, likely be willing to experiment through them all for the sake of keeping things fresh. We do on occasion like kinky positions but sometimes we just want a man to penetrate us in a way we know will provide us with maximum pleasure. And one of these is sure to do it!
xoxo
L
Monday, May 16, 2011
Get a room
It is so easy in our day to day lives to forget to revel in the body of our beloved. There are dishes to be done, bills to pay, errands to run, and kids who have homework to be done. These things, among many others, make it difficult to remember to tap into our inner carnal desires. It is easy to lose sight of eachother when Fido is begging to be walked while your partner is fighting with your oldest to eat their broccoli. Removing yourselves for a night (or two) to a hotel to get away from it all can help you reconnect and respark some passion.
So now, with room key in hand, slip upstairs, close the door and leave the rest of the world behind.
Hotels offer couples a private, bed focused space that that encourages inhibitions to let loose. If budgets allow this can be a luxurious and indulging experience. Even in the cheaper hotels there is a bed and a door that closes to the rest of the world (want a nicer hotel at a 2-star price? Make use of some of those online discount booking sites - they definitely make such a rendez vous more budget friendly). Make this a safe, secret place where no fantasy is taboo and sensuality is the focus.
Guys, you get bonus points if you actually plan ahead and surprise us with a night away. So, find a hotel, book the room, arrange a babysitter then tell us its already done all we have to do is pack a bag and we're on our way. Wine on ice and flowers waiting for us earn you even more points. Jus'sayin.
Most hotels these days have room service. Use it. Order up a bottle of wine and some chocolate covered strawberries. If they have a spa book massages to allow you to relax. If there is something else you want or need ask the hotel staff. Trust me, they've heard and seen it all. Don't be shy, ask.
Because you're not at home automatically your normal, usual patterns are disrupted leaving space for eroticism and fantasy. And you're leaving soon so there is a sense of anonymity and urgency which heightens your senses. And you're not sure if people can see in, but the idea is sexy. If you're in a multistory hotel pull the drapes open and go at it. Odds are no one will be able to see in, unless you're right next to an equally tall building, but the thought that somone could maybe possibly catch you is exhilarating. It feels public without being public.
Picture it ladies: you've just stepped out of the shower, you walk out onto the balcony in your robe to admire the view, he comes up behind you, slips a hand under your robe.......... (heh?!...) if you're more adventurous you can keep going right there, have him bend you over the balcony railing. Not quite so adventurous, let him continue fondling you under robe then move inside for the main event. Seriously, how could you not find either of those options intensely hot?
So, make yourselves a reservation, check in and make use of that do not disturb sign. Most importantly enjoy! That is, afterall, what this is all about.
Got a hot hotel sex story? We want to hear it! As always if you prefer some anonymity feel free to email either of us, we'll be more than happy to post for you!
xoxo
L
So now, with room key in hand, slip upstairs, close the door and leave the rest of the world behind.
Hotels offer couples a private, bed focused space that that encourages inhibitions to let loose. If budgets allow this can be a luxurious and indulging experience. Even in the cheaper hotels there is a bed and a door that closes to the rest of the world (want a nicer hotel at a 2-star price? Make use of some of those online discount booking sites - they definitely make such a rendez vous more budget friendly). Make this a safe, secret place where no fantasy is taboo and sensuality is the focus.
Guys, you get bonus points if you actually plan ahead and surprise us with a night away. So, find a hotel, book the room, arrange a babysitter then tell us its already done all we have to do is pack a bag and we're on our way. Wine on ice and flowers waiting for us earn you even more points. Jus'sayin.
Most hotels these days have room service. Use it. Order up a bottle of wine and some chocolate covered strawberries. If they have a spa book massages to allow you to relax. If there is something else you want or need ask the hotel staff. Trust me, they've heard and seen it all. Don't be shy, ask.
Because you're not at home automatically your normal, usual patterns are disrupted leaving space for eroticism and fantasy. And you're leaving soon so there is a sense of anonymity and urgency which heightens your senses. And you're not sure if people can see in, but the idea is sexy. If you're in a multistory hotel pull the drapes open and go at it. Odds are no one will be able to see in, unless you're right next to an equally tall building, but the thought that somone could maybe possibly catch you is exhilarating. It feels public without being public.
Picture it ladies: you've just stepped out of the shower, you walk out onto the balcony in your robe to admire the view, he comes up behind you, slips a hand under your robe.......... (heh?!...) if you're more adventurous you can keep going right there, have him bend you over the balcony railing. Not quite so adventurous, let him continue fondling you under robe then move inside for the main event. Seriously, how could you not find either of those options intensely hot?
So, make yourselves a reservation, check in and make use of that do not disturb sign. Most importantly enjoy! That is, afterall, what this is all about.
Got a hot hotel sex story? We want to hear it! As always if you prefer some anonymity feel free to email either of us, we'll be more than happy to post for you!
xoxo
L
The art of quickie sex
Ok boys, we know there are times when all you want to do is take your woman and have your sexual way with her, and get on with your day without having to go through all the foreplay and afterplay process. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with quickie sex. Believe it or not there are plenty of women who enjoy it just as much as you do, with out all the fluffy stuff.
The catch, however, is that you have to know how to go about enjoying a quickie without making her feel like you're going to roll over, light a cigarette and leave a crisp twenty on the nightstand.
Read on....
Foreplay, all day
Foreplay isn't something you do ten minutes before you plan to stick your willy in her. Foreplay should be something you do all the time. Whether its complimenting her on the way she smells, or the way she looks, or calling her in the middle of the day to tell her you were imagining yourself licking her, foreplay is something that keeps her mentally stimulated.And if she knows you desire her all the time then bending her over the kitchen table when you get home for a quick one that is all about innate desire is a wonderful thing. And she'll think so too.
Talk to her
Prepare her for what is going to happen. Obviously, don't give her a play-by-play, rather make a sexual comment about her body that will get her thinking.Kiss her first
Before you start pumping and pounding away kiss her. A deep, slow, wet kiss. Make her melt and turn her on.Feed her ego
While you're touching her in places the sun doesn't shine, tell her you've been thinking all day about getting your hands on her. Make her feel sexy by boosting her sexual morale.
Make sure she's wet
Really, its only fair. Make sure she's lubricated before you put your manhood inside her. The last thing you want to do is hurt her. Gently feel around her girly bits to make sure she's wet before you attempt to put yourself inside her.
Don't create a comfortable atmosphere
Forget about the candles and seductive music. That isn't what a quickie is about. Its about spontaneity. It is totally ok if you're in the living room, the TV is on and your pants are around your ankles. Thats the beauty of spontaneous, passionate, quickie sex.
(still with me?......)
Let her know you're excited
Make some noise. Moan and groan. Let her know you're excited and its not just about the release - even if it is. I'm not saying to start screaming like a girl, but give her some indication you're into it.
Put her on top
But don't say "I want to see you on top". Put her there. Like, physically put her there. Putting her in a dominant position will accomplish a few things. First, for some women, her being on top increases her chances of reaching orgasm. And it'll make her feel less like she's being taken over, though so women do enjoy that.
Don't ignore her
You don't have to stay and cuddle for an hour after, but don't make her feel like she doesn't exist either. If you were watching TV before, then sit with her, put your arm around her for a bit afterwards, if she was in the kitchen then pull yourself away for a bit and go hangout in the kitchen with her. Basically, don't make her feel like what just occurred was only about you. Keep in mind many women feel their most vulnerable after sex. So pay her a bit of attention afterwards.
Don't make it habit.
While quick, unadulterated sex is great on occasion don't make it habit. If you constantly barrage her with 5-minute sessions she'll get bored and so well you. So don't make it norm.
Remember its about both of you. Although 5-minutes isn't usually enough time for most women to reach orgasm, a quickie can still be exciting and equally pleasurable for both of you, so long as you're not completely insensitive to her.
And remember, if you keep a woman's mind excited her body will follow.
Now go, have fun and make it quick!
xoxo
LThursday, April 28, 2011
The Zones
The erogenous zones, that is.
Curiosity is part of the male genetic makeup. So for that reason many of you remain curious about what turns women on. What spot can you touch that will absolutely drive her crazy? Well, boys, today is your lucky day! Are you ready to take the journey through a woman's body? You are? Oh good! Let's get started, shall we?
1) Inner thighs. The inner thighs are highly sensitive to touch. Just like the backs of the knees the inner thigh has many nerve endings. So, lick, touch, lightly stroke. Do not, however, bite as this will cause her pain which in turn will cause you pain. So, play nicely. And the inner thigh is not a part of the body you can accidently bump into. You have to intentionally go for it. And her knowing you're making a point of paying attention to that part of the body amps up the turn on factor.
2) Derriere. Yes, many women like it when you play with her backside. A lot of women like squeezing and spanking. Again, be gentle. Fondle and caress. Just remember, this isn't a pigsking you're handling here.
3) Nape of the neck. A weak spot for many women (I would be one of them). Just breathing on this part of her body will give her goosebumps. So imagine her reaction if you lick or kiss the area. If she's like me she'll see stars. Use your hands, pull her hair aside and start planting kisses. I guarantee you this little gem will get her engines running.
4) Ears. Many women enjoy having their ears licked and sucked. Blowing in her ear, however, isn't necessarily what she enjoys. Also, try whispering in her ear. Though do try to pick something other than "Hey, can you wish my gym shorts for me tonight?" - that will have the exact opposite reaction you're going for. Instead try to be a little erotic and even romantic.
5) Feet. While not my first choice of places to be touched many women do enjoy having their feet rubbed and massaged, and some even enjoy having their feet licked and sucked. Many women find a foot massage to be relaxing, and a relaxed lady is more receptive to you and your touches.
6) Wrists. Yes, we have wrists - an often ignored part of our bodies. Next time you're heading into foreplay with your lady try caressing and kissing her wrists and just check out how turned on she'll likely become. )
7) Breasts. Big shock here, right. The breasts and nipples are very sexually sensitive. Gentle fondling, squeezing, caressing, licking and sucking can be very arousing. However, go easy on our nipples. We don't want to feel like we're being clamped on to like a vise.
8) Vagina/Clitoris. Another big shocker here. The clitoris can be stimulated with the tongue or the finger, or, if you're the multitasking type, both at the same time. Many women will give their lovers to show them the amount of pressure they enjoy. If she's not the type to guide you make sure you pay attention to her. If she gets squirmmy make sure its because she's enjoying it and not because you're giving her an "annoying" feeling.
9) Lips. This is the number one erogoneous zone for many women. If you know how to manipulate her lips correctly through licking, sucking, biting and kissing it is very possible that kiss will lead to a lot more than just a kiss.
Remember, all women are different and we each have our own likes and dislikes. Get to know her body and experiment. There is so much more to a woman's body than just her sexual organs.
Until next time, let your exploration begin!
xoxo
-L
Curiosity is part of the male genetic makeup. So for that reason many of you remain curious about what turns women on. What spot can you touch that will absolutely drive her crazy? Well, boys, today is your lucky day! Are you ready to take the journey through a woman's body? You are? Oh good! Let's get started, shall we?
1) Inner thighs. The inner thighs are highly sensitive to touch. Just like the backs of the knees the inner thigh has many nerve endings. So, lick, touch, lightly stroke. Do not, however, bite as this will cause her pain which in turn will cause you pain. So, play nicely. And the inner thigh is not a part of the body you can accidently bump into. You have to intentionally go for it. And her knowing you're making a point of paying attention to that part of the body amps up the turn on factor.
2) Derriere. Yes, many women like it when you play with her backside. A lot of women like squeezing and spanking. Again, be gentle. Fondle and caress. Just remember, this isn't a pigsking you're handling here.
3) Nape of the neck. A weak spot for many women (I would be one of them). Just breathing on this part of her body will give her goosebumps. So imagine her reaction if you lick or kiss the area. If she's like me she'll see stars. Use your hands, pull her hair aside and start planting kisses. I guarantee you this little gem will get her engines running.
4) Ears. Many women enjoy having their ears licked and sucked. Blowing in her ear, however, isn't necessarily what she enjoys. Also, try whispering in her ear. Though do try to pick something other than "Hey, can you wish my gym shorts for me tonight?" - that will have the exact opposite reaction you're going for. Instead try to be a little erotic and even romantic.
5) Feet. While not my first choice of places to be touched many women do enjoy having their feet rubbed and massaged, and some even enjoy having their feet licked and sucked. Many women find a foot massage to be relaxing, and a relaxed lady is more receptive to you and your touches.
6) Wrists. Yes, we have wrists - an often ignored part of our bodies. Next time you're heading into foreplay with your lady try caressing and kissing her wrists and just check out how turned on she'll likely become. )
7) Breasts. Big shock here, right. The breasts and nipples are very sexually sensitive. Gentle fondling, squeezing, caressing, licking and sucking can be very arousing. However, go easy on our nipples. We don't want to feel like we're being clamped on to like a vise.
8) Vagina/Clitoris. Another big shocker here. The clitoris can be stimulated with the tongue or the finger, or, if you're the multitasking type, both at the same time. Many women will give their lovers to show them the amount of pressure they enjoy. If she's not the type to guide you make sure you pay attention to her. If she gets squirmmy make sure its because she's enjoying it and not because you're giving her an "annoying" feeling.
9) Lips. This is the number one erogoneous zone for many women. If you know how to manipulate her lips correctly through licking, sucking, biting and kissing it is very possible that kiss will lead to a lot more than just a kiss.
Remember, all women are different and we each have our own likes and dislikes. Get to know her body and experiment. There is so much more to a woman's body than just her sexual organs.
Until next time, let your exploration begin!
xoxo
-L
Monday, April 18, 2011
Curl Her Toes
Thats the thing about sex. Even when its great, there is always room for improvement - if not for you then for her. She may not say she's feeling like something is missing, however she is likely thinking it.
So, boys, here are a few ideas to help you help her:
Go slow. When women say they want to take things slower, take what you think is slower and multiply it by 10. Women often complain that men move too quickly through the kissing, boob playing, hands in crotch phases. Take more time at each place. Trust me, we want to be teased. We know you want to get to the feature presentation as quickly as possible. On occasion slow things down...waaaaaaay down. We promise it'll be worth your while. This isn't to say we don't want to be grabbed in the hall, thrown up against a wall and done right there. We just don't want it all the time.
Change it up. Don't assume that because something worked last time, or with your last girlfriend, that it will work this time. Variety is the spice of sex. Don't be afraid to try things. Ask her how it feels: faster or slower; softer or harder. No really, ask her. If you ask she will probably tell you.
Porn is for entertainment purposes. So please stop taking tips from porn films (and yes we know you watch it). For women, the seductive period leading up to being in the buff is important, and you just don't get that in porn: woman walks into room, brief kiss, clothes off, now they're doing it (and she's making weird noises and strange pouty faces). Oh, and something else to forget porn ever taught you: forget that tongue flicky thing guys seem to do. We want anything involving your tongue to be long and slow. (you are taking notes here, right? If not, I'll wait until you go get a pen........oh good, you're back.....)
Appreciate her looks. Always verbally appreciate her body at any given opportunity. Women are vain; we want to hear from you how beautiful you think we are.
Foreplay. Its great and most of the time required. But sometimes it isn't needed or wanted. There are times we're primed and ready to go without much kissing and touching from you. Not sure how to tell if more foreplay is needed? Pay attention to her cues. If she's paying more attention to your happy parts than the rest of your body then odds are she's ready to go.
Also, try bringing her to orgasm during foreplay. Intercourse after an orgasm can be incredibly intense as everything is already fired up and highly sensitized. (no really, try this one. Put the time and effort into it, believe me we'll thank you for it later)
Don't assume she'll ask for what she wants. Many woman won't ask for more oral sex, however really want it. If she hasn't asked then go for it. Kiss your way from her neck, down her chest, her thighs then to her girly bits. If she likes it she'll be happy to let you continue. In the unlikely event she doesn't she'll let you know. She may also only want you down there for a short time then its on to something else.
Mirrors. Have sex infront of a (carefully placed) mirror or two. This is much more fun than video taping your session (which unflattering anyway). We know you guys are visual creatures, but you're not the only ones. So, grab that full length mirror and see what happens. I'd bet many women would find watching themselves with their man to be quite the turn on.
Let her drive. Put her in the driver's seat. Generally female-dominant positions make you last longer (bonus for you!) and her climax more quickly. They also usually make it much easier for you to use your hands on parts of her body you can't touch when you're in control. So touch her. Believe me, she'll want you to touch her.
Rev her up in different ways. Foreplay doesn't just happen in bed. It could be the suggestion of a session later in the day and the anticipation that build leading up to it. Be physical without being sexual, like stroking her hair. And women say they can never get enough kissing. So pucker up boys, it'll help fuel the fire. Take her out to dinner, look at her longingly, make her think you're going to take her home and pounce on her as soon as the door clicks shut behind you. Then make her wait. Let the anticipation build.
And really boys how much of a stroke to the ego is to know that you, in all your manly glory, have turned her on, revved her up, and sent her into orbit like never before? I dare you to try it, and tell me you don't feel like you're the king of the world aftewards.
xoxo
-L
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Striptease 101
Let me be the first to admit the very thought of a striptease made me want to run for the hills. You want me to do what? Oh, really? I'll get back to you as soon as I stop laughing. However, I bit the bullet and went for it. I can't say it was the most graceful or glamorous tease ever given, but once I got into it it was fun, as was the bumping uglies that took place afterwards!
Any woman can give a great striptease, even if you're body conscious or naturally shy. Surprise him with a striptease. He's sure to remember it. Need a few pointers to get started? Ok, here you go....
What to wear: Show some skin and choose clothing that accentuates your best features. Sexy lingerie, baby dolls, and cute little dresses are all great options. Whatever you decide to wear make sure it's easily removed.
Panties: make sure your undies show off your fabulous tushie and frame your cheeks. We all have underwear that no one else should see, and seducing your man is not the time for the comfy panties. Try on booty shorts, thongs, and g-strings to see what you feel best in and makes your ass look scrumptious.
Shoes: the choice whether or not to wear shoes is a personal one. If you decide to wear them stilettos are a great option as the high heels will make your legs look long, lean and fabulous. Worried about breaking an ankle in stilettos? No worries. Dancing barefoot is sexy too.
Stockings: knee high or thigh high, with or without garters. They'll be a sexy addition to whatever outfit you choose to wear.
Props: Use a rose or a feather to entice him. While you're dancing use the rose or feather to tickle him from his cheek down his chest, down his arm to his fingertips without letting him touch you back. Sit on a chair, spread your feet just wide enough to give him a bit of a peek, sit up tall and dust yourself with the feather while he watches.
Whipped cream, chocolate sauce and any other dessert type thing on your body is a great idea if you want him to be more than a spectator.
Set the stage: find some music that makes you want to move your body, use low indirect lighting - a combo of soft lamp light and candles works well, if your bedroom is lacking ambiance throw some extra richly colored pillows and blankets to your bed.
Get comfortable with dancing: if you can, take time to practice. You don't necessarily have to choreograph a routine, though if you want to go for it, but get used to moving your body to music, find the rhythm and go with it. And get rid of the "I'm not hot enough" thoughts that creep into your head. Because, really, you are TOTALLY hot, so work your hotness!
The most important thing is to be yourself. Have fun. Pick and choose from these ideas and go for it. The fun is knowing you're driving him wild, not necessarily the moves themselves.
When you feel sexy you look sexy. If there was ever a time to ooze sex, this is it! Most importantly have fun! This may well be a high point in your sexual relationship; you may just find you want to do it again and again....... You never know until you try it. Get up there, strut your stuff! What are you waiting for?
xoxo
L
Note from Av: Ladies, trust us on this one. Put your insecurities on the shelf - know that any of your features that you're picking on, he's getting an eyeful of - and loving. No woman is hotter to your man than the one, right in front of him, taking initiative, and showing him how much she wants to have sex with him. Get comfortable with yourself, know that he LOVES it, and let loose!
Sunday, April 10, 2011
What Women Want
....in bed.
I'm sure (or hope?) its common knowledge that, generally, women want more sensual, take-your-time foreplay. We also rather enjoy it when you don't just roll over and fall asleep immediately afterwards. But what about once you've got our motors running? What do we want then? Read on.....
Use Your Tongue Ok, that doesn't necessarily mean we want you to go "down town" (although sometimes that is nice). We like compliments. But be creative. The standard "you're so beautiful" won't always cut it. Be specific. Aim for something along the lines of "your fabulous ass drives me crazy!", and telling us "that feels good" works wonders - the benefit of that little gem is twofold: if you tell us whatever we're doing feels good we're more likely to keep going (bonus for you!) and knowing whatever we're doing is doing it for you turns us on more. You see where this is going?
Make Love to us Head to Toe Sex for us, most times, starts in the mind. We don't go from zero to LIFT OFF as quickly as you can, and do. Light some candles. Play some soft music. Rose petals on the bed. No, not saying this needs to be done every time, but break it out every so often. Let us know you're paying attention to us. Make us feel special and wanted. Once you touch our body make sure your touches and caresses are a full-body affair: don't just focus on boobs or our girly bits. Focus a bit on less obvious areas: gentle kisses on the neck (a sweet spot for many women), trace circles on her lower back. In fact, go for these areas first before the more obvious hot spots.
Man Up Take the lead. There is nothing more masculine than you taking the lead, showing us you have direction and you're going for it. Don't ask questions in bed. Ever. Drop the inhibitions. And stop being gentle. We want to be taken and to be ravished. Dirty talk that would make us blush outside the bedroom will wildly turn us on now. We want to feel you are wild for us because of us. Don't get us wrong, sometimes we want a more gentle session, but sometimes we just like to be taken. Right here, right now. Go.
Just Do It Honestly the size of your organ doesn't matter to us as much as it matters to you. Its more of an issue in your mind - men tend to fret over the size of their stuff. Really, we don't care as much about it as you do. We care more about stiffness and staying power. So, stop worrying that its not big enough and just get to it and get it done!
Chime in - got a suggestion of your own? Share it! Add your own ideas, elaborate, yay or nay - either way, we want to hear from you!
xoxo
-Layla
I'm sure (or hope?) its common knowledge that, generally, women want more sensual, take-your-time foreplay. We also rather enjoy it when you don't just roll over and fall asleep immediately afterwards. But what about once you've got our motors running? What do we want then? Read on.....
Use Your Tongue Ok, that doesn't necessarily mean we want you to go "down town" (although sometimes that is nice). We like compliments. But be creative. The standard "you're so beautiful" won't always cut it. Be specific. Aim for something along the lines of "your fabulous ass drives me crazy!", and telling us "that feels good" works wonders - the benefit of that little gem is twofold: if you tell us whatever we're doing feels good we're more likely to keep going (bonus for you!) and knowing whatever we're doing is doing it for you turns us on more. You see where this is going?
Make Love to us Head to Toe Sex for us, most times, starts in the mind. We don't go from zero to LIFT OFF as quickly as you can, and do. Light some candles. Play some soft music. Rose petals on the bed. No, not saying this needs to be done every time, but break it out every so often. Let us know you're paying attention to us. Make us feel special and wanted. Once you touch our body make sure your touches and caresses are a full-body affair: don't just focus on boobs or our girly bits. Focus a bit on less obvious areas: gentle kisses on the neck (a sweet spot for many women), trace circles on her lower back. In fact, go for these areas first before the more obvious hot spots.
Man Up Take the lead. There is nothing more masculine than you taking the lead, showing us you have direction and you're going for it. Don't ask questions in bed. Ever. Drop the inhibitions. And stop being gentle. We want to be taken and to be ravished. Dirty talk that would make us blush outside the bedroom will wildly turn us on now. We want to feel you are wild for us because of us. Don't get us wrong, sometimes we want a more gentle session, but sometimes we just like to be taken. Right here, right now. Go.
Just Do It Honestly the size of your organ doesn't matter to us as much as it matters to you. Its more of an issue in your mind - men tend to fret over the size of their stuff. Really, we don't care as much about it as you do. We care more about stiffness and staying power. So, stop worrying that its not big enough and just get to it and get it done!
Chime in - got a suggestion of your own? Share it! Add your own ideas, elaborate, yay or nay - either way, we want to hear from you!
xoxo
-Layla
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