The Female O

The female orgasm. Women want to have them. Men want to deliver them. Far too often the woman's O falls among the ranks of the Sasquatch- great and magical in theory, but not something that is easily stumbled upon.

Sure the female orgasm is fickle. If you follow these pointers you have the greatest chance of seeing one in the wild, in it's natural habitat. So sit down and listen up. Female Orgasm 101 is in session






#1 - take her off the clock. Like you worry about not lasting long enough she worries about taking too long to reach orgasm, so many women end up faking one or deciding to go without. So stop obsessing over orgasms - your's and her's. Take the pressure off. Relaxation is the single most important factor in bringing a woman to orgasm.

Tell her she has all night. The more you convey a tolerance for a lengthy buildup and an appreciation for her pleasure the more likely she is to unwind and blast off into orbit. It can take up to 40mins (if not more) for a woman to reach orgasm. Going somewhere?

#2- turn her on with your talent. The best sex starts before the clothes come off. Talent - more than rugged good looks or washboard abs - is a powerful aphrodisiac. So, nail that song during karaoke. Make her die laughing during your less than stellar dart game. Yup, humor is a talent too.

#3- when she's naked, speak up. Women worry about how they look. They also worry about how they look down there, which makes it difficult for them to O during oral. Clearly you have everything to gain with flattery. If you love the way she looks (and you do, right?) naked, speak up!

#4- learn how she likes to be touched. One thing we love during manual stimulation is a slow buildup. Place the heel of one hand just above her clitoris. Now, run your ring and middle fingers along her outter lips. Gently graze the skin at first adding pressure as the tension builds. In the beginning she may be too sensitive for direct clitoral stimulation. Give it a few minutes then gently work your way to the hot spot.

#5- learn to sense her orgasm. Ease into oral sex, don't just dive right in. Kiss her inner thighs, the move to her outter lips, eventually moving inside, with firm, broad strokes with your tongue. Watch her hips for a rhythm she likes. Listen to her moans and gasps to tell you you're on the right path.

#6- follow her lead. Once you've reached the point of no return you could climax if a marching band made its way through your bedroom. Your lady, not so much. She'll like hit the off switch if you move or change up midway to orgasm. We love it when you try new things, but once you've found a winner stick with it until she crosses the finish line.

#7- let her finish first. Stalking the tandem orgasm is admirable. However, most women prefer a "ladies first" approach. If you rub the clitoris for a long time, during penetration for example, it can become too sore or desensitized to respond to oral or manual stimulation later. So, satisfy her before intercourse. Bonus: a woman's orgasm threshold drops after her first one, so it is often easier to bring her to orgasm during intercourse after she's already had one. How's that sound for an encore?

So there you go. A few tips and tricks to get you started on helping your lady reach orgasm. Believe me, if you put these to practice she will thank you for it later!

xoxo
L