Pucker Up

I'm sure we've mentioned it a few times here that there is just something about a good kiss. A great kiss. And a hot makeout session.

I'm not entirely sure I believe there are bad kissers out there. I think it more comes down to there being a lack of connection between Kisser A and Kisser B. Having that connection is what allows for an electrifying lip-lock and prevents a ho-hum smooch.

So let's just assume you've got that connection: physically, emotionally and chemically. There are ways to up the voltage on your already great kisses:

Use your hands. A good kiss is more than just locking lips. The more physical contact you have the more connected you'll feel. Run your fingers through her hair. Gently massage her shoulder blades. Wandering hands can amp up the sensuality without being disrespectful.

Eye contact. Look into her eyes from time to time. Make eye contact and hold it for a moment. No need for a staring contest however. Just let your eyes do the talking and conect the two of you for a few seconds.

Variety. Mix it up with lip nibbles, gentle neck bites and a bit of tongue action. And don't forget to smile.

Pay attention. Distraction is the single best way to sour a great kiss. Hot kisses have much in common with dancing- each person acts and reacts to the other's movements, breaths, pace and sounds. The more you're in the moment, the more sensual the kiss will be.

Kissing faux pas:

The lizard. Your tongue darts in and out like a reptile hunting for its next prey.

The Roto Rooter. Your tongue ventures so far down her throat her gag reflex kicks in.

The Deep Sea Diver. You rarely come up for air.

Frozen. You don't change it up. You stay in the same position, same angle, same posture.

The Squid. Your breath isn't fresh and all she can think about is how to slip you a breath mint.

Pucker up. Kiss more often. A kiss can be a prelude to sex, however it doesn't always have to be. It can be a moment for you and your partner to reconnect, to tune out the world. It is an opportunity for your lips to tell your special someone how you feel about them without having to utter a single word.

xoxo

L